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  Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Concerns, Announcements and Devotional Thought

A Weekly Ministry of Indianapolis First Friends Meeting



As Way Opens

   Before it was called Veterans Day, November 11th was celebrated as Armistice Day in commemoration of the signing of the armistice ending World War I.   Signed November 11, 1918, it signified the end of conflict between the Allied Forces and Germany.  Today, almost one hundred years later, we remember the nearly 30 million military veterans in the United States.  For Quakers, it is a day to honor veterans and their sacrifice, but we also remember the testimony of peace. 

   Quakerism was born in a time of war and conflict in England.  There was no naiveté among Friends about the peril of the sword.  Rather than preach against war, they spoke for peace…Declaration to King Charles, 1661 “We utterly deny all outward wars and strife and fightings with outward weapons, for any end or under any pretense whatsoever.  And this is our testimony to the whole world.  The spirit of Christ, by which we are guided, is not changeable, so as once to command us from a thing as evil and again to move unto it; and we do certainly know, and so testify to the world, that the spirit of Christ, which leads us into all Truth, will never move us to fight and war against any man with outward weapons, neither for the kingdom of Christ, nor for the kingdoms of this world.” 

   Did all Quakers refuse to bear “outward weapons”? No.  Did all Quakers refuse to fight?  No.  Many Friends then, and throughout history have chosen to join military service.  But not without thoughtful consideration of the cost, and the question of Christ’s leading.  And hopefully, not without reflecting on the truth of what George Fox told the Commonwealth Commissioners in 1651: “I told them I lived in the virtue of that life and power that took away the occasion of all wars…”  What an incredible world this would be if everyone would live in such a way that there would no longer be any occasion, any purpose, and any reason, for war.

   “God of Consolation, every time we mark an anniversary that recalls an act of war or violence, we struggle to make sense of our world.  As time moves on, remind us of the call to remain open-hearted.  May our memory not harden into fear and anger, but pulse with compassion and generosity.  Give us the collective voice to speak for healing and forgiveness, and bring us the peace we long for.  With hope in your steadfast love, we pray, Amen.”     



Considering the Query: “‘Come regularly to meeting for worship even when you are angry, depressed, tired or spiritually cold. In the silence ask for and accept the prayerful support of others joined with you in worship. Try to find a spiritual wholeness which encompasses suffering as well as thankfulness and joy. Prayer, springing from a deep place in the heart, may bring healing and unity as nothing else can. Let meeting for worship nourish your whole life.’From Advices and queries; Britain Yearly Meeting Faith and Practice, 5th edition, @ 1995-2015


Joys & Concerns

Catherine Swanson’s father is moving through his last days of life, and prayers are welcomed for him and his family.  His daughter Mary Ann is due to arrive from Wales this Friday.  Please lift Catherine’s family in your prayers.  Catherine’s parents live in Bloomington.  To send Catherine a card, her address is


We thank God for his mercy and blessing in the quick recovery from recent surgery for bothBrenda Rodeheffer’s father, Bob Franklin, and for Sarah Binns


Gary and Cheryl Wyne are traveling in the Holy Land, and send us greetings from the Sea of Galilee!  May God bless their journey.   


Missing Red Coat!  A ladies red coat with gold buttons is missing.  If you happen to have it, please call the Meeting Office at 255-2485.  Thank you very much!


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities  


Cash and Cans! Thanksgiving with Mid North Food Pantry

Witness & Service is sponsoring a food awareness drive at First Friends during the month of November.  This year W&S is soliciting cash contributions rather than food items from adults since Mid North is able to purchase from Gleaners Food Bank more than 10 times the amount of food that an individual is able to purchase, for the same amount of money, at a grocery store.  We think it is beneficial for the children at First Friends to continue to contribute food items.  Boxes for canned food are in the children’s classrooms.  Thermometers on the bulletin board will track the cash contributions and the amount of food collected.  We hope that everyone at First Friends will work together to share their blessings during the month of November.  Checks should be written to First Friends with a notation for Mid North.  Thanks for your help.



Eco-Film Series: ‘DamNation’, Friday, Nov 13, 7:00 pm at All Souls Unitarian Church (5605 E 56th Street) The change in our national attitude regarding big dams is explored in this documentary. It has transformed from having pride in them as engineering wonders to the growing awareness that our own future is bound to the life and health of our rivers.



YFYF is going ‘out of this world’… cosmic bowling! Saturday, November 14

Meet at Woodland Bowling at 7:00.  Pizza will be provided.  Bring your friends.  Young Friends Youth Fellowship is the place to be!



“Ish” Group Gathering: Are you looking for fellowship with Friends outside of Meeting?  Our newly formed Ish group (adult-Ish, young-Ish) is having its second gathering this Friday, November 13th at Carl & Jeff’s in Carmel beginning at 7pm.  Although most of our group is between early 30's and mid 50-s, anyone of adult age (21 and over) is welcome to join us for an evening of pizza, dessert, wine and fellowship. For location and details contact Bill Heitman at 317-670-7509 (call/text),, or check out our Facebook group page at   We are tentatively planning on reconvening the 2nd Friday of each month. 



First Friends is deeply grateful for the generosity of Friends in support of our ministries and extends a big ‘thank you’ to all of who have turned in pledge cards for 2016.  This indication of support for 2016 is helpful as we plan a budget for the new year.  If you haven’t had a chance to turn in your pledges, you are welcome to do so by sending it to the Meeting office.

With thanks and gratitude,

Stewardship Team 2016



Calling all Baby Boomer/Empty-Nesters.  Becki Heusel is putting out an APB to see who might be interested in some fellowship.  You can reach her by email at





Tuesday, November 17, from 2:00 to 3:30 - Poetry Group program will be presented by Mac Greene, a psychologist and author of two chapbooksMac Greene is a transplanted Hoosier, since 1997, coming from Washington DC by way of Eau Claire Wisconsin.  He began writing poetry in 2006 as a solution to the Empty Nest Before the Empty Nest, those years when he became increasingly redundant even though the kids were still home.  He writes about domestic matters, children, aging, cats and dogs, but also about nature, politics, and spirituality.  In other words just about anything might inspire a poem, as he looks for the little miracles that are all around us all the time.  His mentor for his first six years or so of writing was our own Linda Lee, and he will always be thankful for her inspiration and guidance. We meet in the parlor.



Coffee and Queries for 20somethings… people in their 20’s who are curious

Next Tuesday, November 17th, 7:45 to 9:00, in the basement at First Friends

With Ruthie




Oak Leaf Ladies!  You are invited to attend our 2nd Annual Potluck Lasagna Dinner.

 Ruth Kelly has graciously offered to have our next book discussion in her home on November 17th at 7 pm.    We will be talking about The Silver Star by Jeanette Walls.  Bring a friend, a side dish and a book from home to swap.  People who haven't previously attended book discussion are MORE than welcome to come, dinner will be on us!   Please contact Ruth Kelly via email at  for directions.  If you would like to be on the Oak Leaf email list please contact or email Kathy Rhyne at  Our next discussion will be I am Malala by Malala Yousafzai on December 29th at 7 pm in the parlor.


Food Bank Lunch: November 20thWitness & Service is sponsoring a luncheon for the volunteers at Midwest Food Bank on Friday, Nov-20.  We will meet at First Friends at 9:45 am and ride together to Midwest Food Bank.  We will serve lunch to 40-50 volunteers.  Midwest Food Bank is a “mini Gleaners” and provides food to many food pantries, including the Mid North Food Pantry.  If you would like to help with the luncheon, please see Jim Donahue for more info 


An Evening of Storytelling with Phil Gulley

 Indiana Friends Committee on Legislation presents and evening of storytelling with Quaker author Phil Gulley. Purchase & signing for Phil’s NEW book: A Lesson in Hope. Friday, November 20, from 7:00 pm-8:30 pm.  For more information, contact IFCL Clerk Bill Chapman (317) 255-4739. A freewill offering will be taken to support the advocacy work of IFCL.




The third annual Community Thanksgiving Service will be held on Tuesday evening, November 24th, at 7pm at First Friends Meeting.  Choir members from a variety of churches in the Shalom Zone will join in the mass choir to sing John Rutter’s For the Beauty of the Earth.  First Friends’ choir and handbell choir will also sing and play.  Refreshments will be served after the service for fellowship time.  Please mark your calendar for the Tuesday before Thanksgiving and come give thanks with our neighbors! 

*First Friends, Epworth UMC, Allisonville Christian, Cross and Crown Lutheran, St. Piux X


The Shalom Zone outreach focus for this event will be School on Wheels , an organization that provides tutoring for homeless children.  The various churches are collecting needed items prior to the service and also at the service on Nov-24.  Items requested (in addition to cash donations) are as follows:

School on Wheels' Wish List Link:

1)      Dickies Big Boys’ Belt Casual Belt with Stitching, Black – Sizes XS to XL needed, $9.99

2)      Dickies Boys Flat Front Pant, Khaki – Sizes XS to XL needed, $15.97

3)      French Toast School Uniforms Girls Pants, Khaki – Sizes XS to XL needed, costs vary

4)      School Uniform Unisex Short Sleeved Pique Knit Shirt by French Toast, White – XS to XL needed, $9.00

5)      Appletters Game, $9.99

6)      Bananagrams Game, $14.85

7)      Pepperidge Farm Goldfish Crackers, Variety Pack (30 count), $14.62

8)      Welch’s Mixed Fruit Snacks (80 count), $19.49

9)      Walmart, Target, Amazon Gift Cards



Grief Gathering on Sunday November 29th after Meeting for Worship - Circle of Care is hosting a lunch and discussion facilitated by Leslie Kartholl for those who have experienced a loss of a family member or cherished friend.  This lunch and time together is a tangible way our Meeting is demonstrating our care for each other during times of sadness.  We invite anyone that is interested in gathering with others to share and reflect on the experience of loss.  Please contact the office (  if you plan to attend.  This event is sponsored by our Circle of Care.


From Ed Morris Clerk of Ministry and Counsel:

Pastor Evaluation: Ruthie shared the results of her evaluation. She asked for and got good advice on how to tweak her very good performance. She received praise and strong support from M&C for her ministry at FF.

Pastor's Report/Calendar: Ruthie reported on numerous activities planned and in progress. Those included: The Welcome Wagon which is what the Dan Mosley grant group are calling themselves these days; the Ecumenical Thanksgiving Service on Nov 24th at 7:00pm at FF and Christmas Season Plans to be described in detail later.

Marriage Equality: FF Meeting will continue its discussion and discernment of M&C's proposal for Process Equality for Marriage Under the Care of the Meeting at the next monthly meeting on Nov. 15th after Meeting for Worship. Child care will be available for the duration. Copies of the proposal with better formatting will be distributed. All members and attenders are invited to participate.


First Friends Parents:  Gently Used Toys (NOT new) are requested as Christmas presents for the children of MidNorth Food Pantry recipients.  If you are clearing out old toys in preparation for influx of new toys at Christmas, please keep us in mind.  They can be dropped off at the food donation station in Fellowship Hall or Kathy Farris (842-5844) will pick up. 



“Friends Of Nature Kids” ~ Postcard Designer: Cut a rectangle approximately the size of a postcard out of a piece of paper. Now hold up the paper with the rectangle cut out in front of yourself and look around outside, framing different picture postcard scenes. Which postcard scene is your favorite? What makes a postcard scene interesting? .From ‘52 Nature Activities for Kids’ by Lynn Gordon




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