I Need My Mommy!
Indianapolis First Friends Quaker Meeting
Bob Henry
May 11 2025
Good morning, Friends, and Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers or mother figures joining us this morning. The scripture I have chosen for this today is from Isaiah 66:12-13 from the New Revised Standard Version.
For thus says the Lord:
I will extend prosperity to her like a river
and the wealth of the nations like an overflowing stream,
and you shall nurse and be carried on her arm
and bounced on her knees.
As a mother comforts her child,
so I will comfort you;
you shall be comforted in Jerusalem.
As younger parents, Sue and I and our three boys lived just off the campus of Huntington University. In the warmer months, the boys and I would almost daily throw the baseball around after school in our side yard. We usually threw the ball around until dinner and often my college students would join us.
On occasion our time would be cut short by one of the boys getting hurt – tripping in a hole in the yard, a brother running into another brother, missing a ball and getting hit by it, running into a tree, but often it was simply being exhausted from the day, a bit hangry, and needing to take a shower and head to bed.
I will never forget this one time; we were out throwing the ball around when our youngest got frustrated because his brother kept catching the ball and not letting him catch it. Soon, he threw his glove on the ground and ran straight at me with his arms out. He was grumbling something under his breath, but as he got closer, I heard it loud and clear.
“I want my mommy!”
He had enough of his brothers, he had enough of me not throwing balls his way, and he just wanted someone to focus on him. And he ran right past me and into the house. Often, I would come in for dinner and find him in his mother’s arms sound asleep. Some days, I wish we could have some of those moments back.
Lately, I have thought a great deal about the role of mothers in our current age. I believe there is an extra stress on those who seek to nurture and care for children, elderly parents, spouses, and loved ones. And I am not talking just about biological mothers, but also people who are mother-like in their nature.
Jesus often showed these motherly qualities as he taught and interacted with people. One of his most well know “mother-like moments” was when Jesus weeps over Jerusalem and wishes that he could gather the people like a hen gathers her chicks.
I don’t know about you, but I need that image of God more than ever right now. I think there are a lot of us running with our arms wide open saying “I want my mommy!” I believe we need a nurturing Mother God to wrap her comforting arms around us, draw us in, give us some attention, and remind us that all is going to be well.
As I prepared for this week’s sermon, I was glad that as Quakers we are not afraid to imagine or characterize God with female qualities and descriptors, as well as the typical male ones.
As Quakers, our understanding of God is shaped by personal experiences, and different people use a variety of descriptors to help them find meaningful ways to connect to the Divine.
Even when we talk of that Inner-Light we do not ascribe it a gender, actually most of our gender descriptors come from the Bible.
The patriarchal world of the Bible often limits us only to male descriptors of God. Yet we cannot miss the personification of God as Wisdom in a few places in the Old Testament which utilizes female descriptors and imagery.
Take for example Proverbs 1 – I love Eugene Peterson’s translation of the personification of wisdom – which he labels “Lady Wisdom.” Giving us yet another female interpretation of God.
Lady Wisdom goes out in the street and shouts.
At the town center she makes her speech.
In the middle of the traffic she takes her stand.
At the busiest corner she calls out:
I think we need and starting to see this image of God in our world, today.
More significantly the Apocrypha (the books of the Bible that were not considered cannon, but were accepted as historical) often utilize the female descriptors for the wisdom of God (most likely a reason they were left out by the conclave of men deciding which books would be included or dismissed.)
Sadly, for most of our history (and still for many faith communities today), a female version of God seems threatening, demeaning or even heretical.
Let’s be honest, I sense in most eras this was misogyny alive and well, as it sadly still is today.
Just listen to how one of the Apocryphal books - the Wisdom of Solomon personifies the Wisdom of God.
There is in her a spirit that is intelligent, holy…loving the good…humane…steadfast, sure, free from anxiety, all-powerful, overseeing all, and penetrating through all spirits that are intelligent, pure, and altogether subtle. …For she is a breath of the power of God…in every generation she passes into holy souls and makes them friends of God, and prophets; for God loves nothing so much as the person who lives with Wisdom. (7:22b-30)
As Quakers who call themselves, Friends, that one line should stand out and be quoted often –
“She passes into holy souls and makes them friends of God.”
That, to me, is beautiful.
Pastor Chris Glazer says the following about this passage from the Wisdom of Solomon,
“If you saw all these qualities in a personal ad or on a resume, you just might want to meet this person! I say “might” because this is a list so awesome many of us would feel intimidated. This is a description of Sophia, Greek for Wisdom, and in Jewish wisdom literature, you could say she was the feminine side of God, the counterpart to God the Father. This scripture was written by a Jewish mystic deeply influenced by Greek philosophy who lived around the time of Jesus…
In another text it is said that Sophia was with God from the beginning—without Wisdom nothing was created that was created. If this sounds familiar, the mystical Gospel of John takes as its prologue a similar assertion, that the Word, or Jesus, was with God from the beginning, and without Jesus, nothing was made that was made.”
I think in our current shift to move back to a more male dominated society; we need more than ever to identify with this feminine side of God. Those qualities and descriptors are desperately lacking in our world and especially our leadership in this present moment.
Maybe it would do us good to find comfort in scriptures that emphasize these aspects of God, such as our scripture for today,
Isaiah 66:13, “As a mother comforts her child, so I will comfort you,”
Or as I said earlier, Jesus lamenting over Jerusalem in Matthew 23:37 –
“How often have I desired to gather your children together as a mother hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing”
Or as the Psalmist in Psalm 131:2 gives us that comforting goal of resting in God:
“I hold myself in quiet and silence,
like a little child in its mother’s arms,
like a little child, so I keep myself.”
Just maybe, during these unsettling times, embracing a Mother-God-understanding would help us sense more accurately how God wants to interact in our life during this time.
It reminds me of back in my doctoral work when I studied the people known as the Dessert Mothers and Fathers. As their world became chaotic and difficult, they chose to head out into the wildernesses of the Middle East to pray.
An interesting part of their theology was that they did not believe Jesus came to save only Christians—rather, they believed that Jesus could save the whole world from its excesses, its materialism, prejudices, hatred, self-absorption, violence, and cruelty.
In many ways, I consider the Dessert Mothers and Fathers the first real Quakers. Like us they believed that God speaks to everyone, but that in order to hear God’s voice, one must learn to be still and actively listen for it.
Their focus was on the interior life that later, Quaker founder, George Fox would label our Inner Light.
Along with their inward journey, just like us Quakers, there was also an outward expression as well. The Mothers and Fathers labored to create self-sustaining communities that could welcome and feed the stranger, the refugee, the pilgrim, and those escaping mistreatment and injustice, including women.
Mary C. Earl in her book specifically on the Dessert Mothers, or “Ammas” as they were known, shared this about what they taught her, she said…
“…the ammas have taught me to set aside time for quiet. There are so many pressures that lead us to be fragmented. The tradition does not deny the pressures. The ammas tell us that God is present even in those daily struggles. I can remember that more readily if I have taken time for quiet.
She also says,
“…the ammas take me back to basics. We live in a time in which so much polarization has happened in both the national political arena, and within the church. The ammas invite us to look beyond all the divisive fussing — not to deny it, but to see it as surface reality. They invite us to gaze more deeply, especially in the most tensive of circumstances.”
And lastly, she says,
“…the ammas tell me that from the beginnings of the life of the Church, women have been initiators of new patterns and teachings, opening the way for knowing the wholeness that God offers in Christ. When I am reading the stories and sayings of the desert ammas, I am struck by their utter confidence that no matter what, this world belongs to God, is loved by God, and that each person, each creature, each aspect of the created order, is an expression (some would say a theophany, a showing) of God’s love.
Like our youngest son, maybe the cry of our heart is “I need my mommy!”
During these difficult times we need to take time to embrace and gravitate to the qualities and attributes of our Mother God, to sense her nurturing love and seek her wisdom. Allow ourselves to be wrapped in her safe embrace and comforted by her care.
I was taught by a Quaker once that when we center down for waiting worship, we are metaphorically placing ourselves on the lap of God, wrapped in her loving arms, waiting to hear the whisper of her Spirit in our ear. There is a calming sense to that. It brings us peace and safety and even hope.
And as the Dessert Mothers and Fathers, maybe we too should take this opportunity to find time for retreat, or at least a pause in our busy schedules, to acknowledge and work on our inner lives. To begin to seek how during challenging times Mother God can help release us from our excesses, materialism, prejudices, hatred, self-absorption, violence, and cruelty.
Since Easter I have had two of these opportunities – one at our pastor’s conference and one at the last week’s Linda Lee Spiritual Retreat. Both were needed times for me to acknowledge that “I need my mommy!” That when the world seems out of control, the thing that I CAN DO is work on myself.
And once more, as the Ammas or Dessert Mothers remind us, during our quiet and alone times this week, we should try and make time for acknowledging the pressures, polarizations, and tensions that we are experiencing – all while remembering no matter what this world throws at us - Mother God is always with us and ready to embrace us with her loving arms!
So, as we take a moment to enter waiting worship this morning, close your eyes and image yourself on the lap of your mother God, take a moment to nuzzle in and be fully embraced by her arms, and then wait to hear what her Spirit says to you this morning. If you need something to help focus this time, I have provided a couple queries for you to ponder.
1. How might embracing the qualities and attributes of a “Mother God” help me in this time?
2. What inner spiritual work do I need to do in my times of quiet this week?
3. Who do I need to reach out to with a nurturing word of love and hope, today?