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Friend to Friend January 9, 2019

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As I mentioned in my sermon from this past Sunday, January is often a time to resolve to do things differently and to be better. It’s kind of a clean slate, a fresh start, a time to reinvent oneself (just ask the gyms and the weight loss industry).

This month, you and I will vow to exercise more, eat less, abstain from our vices and vow to become the people we hope and want to be. Yet by early February, our good intentions will have been tested and, too often, found lacking (again, just ask the gyms and weight loss industry).  Our struggles and failures – both major and minor – hopefully don’t prevent or stop us from striving to do better.  We must continue to reflect, learn, and make adjustments to be successful.  

While processing my own personal resolutions and goals for 2019, I began to wonder. What would New Year’s resolutions/goals for First Friends look like? I came up with the following. 

In 2019, I hope to see First Friends resolve to effectively…  

  • declare the Quaker Way through our words and actions.

  • become a faithful presence in our neighborhoods.

  • incarnate the attributes of the life of Christ.

  • practice hospitality.

  • discern and seek wisdom together.

  • discover, develop, and utilize our assets.

  • embody a non-violent, reconciling and supportive way of life together.

  • embrace our Quaker identity as a unique expression of the Christian faith.

You may want to print those out and put them on your refrigerator and reflect often on how we are doing or what else we could be doing – always asking “What is my part in this?”  I look forward to how we will live out these resolutions in 2019! 

Happy New Year,

Bob


Joys & Concerns

 

Thanks to all who helped on January 2nd at the food pantry: Krishan C, Ray G, John and Ileen M, Beth H, Rik and Linda L, Beth F, Christy M, Dan H, and Bill & Kathy F.  We served about 90 families.  We will again need help January 16 since we will still be missing some of our regulars. Please consider volunteering if you can! Thank you!


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Last week some of our IFCL folks went to the statehouse to offer donuts at the entrances and to ask for support of the redistricting bill. They were joined by about 30 other people representing other groups.


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities


Affirmation Class
for our youth will resume on Sunday January 13th at 11:00am. Bob will lead the discussion on Quaker Theology. See you there!

Please donate your plastic bags to Mid-North Food Pantry! The food pantry is out of plastic grocery bags and could really use some more. If you have extras you’d like to donate, please drop them off in the box labeled “plastic bags” in Fellowship hall near the Donation Station. Thank you for helping Mid-North Food Pantry!

 

Donate your gently used winter clothing! Coats, scarfs, hats, gloves that you no longer need will be welcomed by the John H Boner Center. Children who may be wearing underwear donated by you, would appreciate outgrown jackets, coats, etc.  (Outerwear does not need to be new.) You can drop off donations in a collection box in Fellowship Hall on the stage. Thank you for your generosity!

 

Men’s Threshing Together DATE CHANGE ~ If you are interested in gathering with other men who mull over current issues or topics, where all points of view are heard, no decisions are made, and all in a non-threatening atmosphere over a meal, then Threshing Together is for you! Join us for our next meeting on Thursday, January 24 at 7:00pm. Please note this is the fourth Thursday instead of the usual third Thursday of the month. See locations here: https://goo.gl/QhkXTo.

 

Rise-Up Sing Along! The first Sing Along of 2019 happens on the third Friday, January 18. Under the leadership of our talented Jim K, join in singing a variety of mostly well-known songs chosen from Rise Up Singing and Rise Again. Song sets will be provided. This joyful event takes place in the parlor at First Friends Meeting (3030 East Kessler Blvd) at 7:00 PM.

 

Christian Prayer Unity Service ~ At least once a year, Christians are reminded of Jesus’ prayer for his disciples that “they may be one so that the world may believe” (John 17.21). This is an ecumenical service where Christians all over will gather to pray. This year, First Friends Meeting will be hosting the prayer service for Indianapolis on the evening of Sunday, January 20 at 6:00pm in the Meetingroom. We are asking anyone who is able to please donate cookies or snacks for the service—please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org if you can help. Thank you!

 

Martin Luther King Jr Celebration Service ~ Please mark your calendars for a service in celebration of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, organized by the Shalom Zone. It will be held at 11:00am on Monday, January 21, 2019 at Cross and Crown Lutheran Church, 5233 E 79th St. We will gather together as a community of churches to remember and celebrate Dr. King’s dream of racial harmony and social justice in America. This commemorative service is a public testament of our common values as communities of faith actively seeking the shalom of the city as the prophet Jeremiah reminds us. Through the inspirational words of Dr. King and in the singing of songs of hope and freedom and as we share a luncheon with our neighbors, we become renewed and refreshed for the new work ahead. For more information please visit https://goo.gl/L5wGxN. If you’d like to volunteer, please sign up here: https://www.signupgenius.com/go/70a0f4ca4ad2ea20-mlkservice.

 

Heritage Place New Year Open House & Membership Event! Have you ever wondered what Heritage Place of Indianapolis is all about? Now is your chance! Talk with one of our wonderful instructors; learn about our weekly educational programs, our home-based services and our programs that happen “now and then”! It will be held Wednesday, January 23, 10:00am-2:00pm at the Common Ground Church Building, 4550 N. Illinois St (SW corner of Illinois and 46th Street). Refreshments will be available, no reservations necessary, and plenty of free parking—come anytime! For Seniors 55 and up. For more information, visit www.heritageplaceindy.org.  

 

Western Yearly Meeting Spring Retreat ~ All are invited to Western Yearly Meeting’s spring retreat on Saturday, March 2 hosted here at First Friends Meeting. This is a one-day church growth event for everyone who is interested in exploring avenues of growth for their Meeting. The theme is Christ’s words, “If I be lifted up I will draw all people unto me.” (John 12:32) Sessions include:

·         Identity – In this important session we will not examine how we currently see ourselves and our situation, but how we might see our circumstance in Christ.

·         First Impressions – This session helps us to examine our churches and congregations in ways that acknowledge our struggles but also identify our struggles.

·         Appreciative Inquiry – In this session we will take an inventory of all the resources we have through which we might build or rebuild a dynamic and vibrant ministry.

·         P.A.G.E. – Utilizing a simple assessment tool (poor/average/good/excellent), we can evaluate what ministries and programs we might need to change, invest more into, or even eliminate.

The retreat for pastors is on Friday from 4:00pm to 7:00pm and the retreat for all begins Saturday at 8:30am and ends at 7:00pm. Cost is $30 per person and includes meals. You can find the brochure here: https://goo.gl/BfHAVY. To register, fill in and send the registration form here: https://goo.gl/nxSLvh. The registration deadline is February 1, 2019. For more information, contact Sue Whitesel at stwhitesel@sbcglobal.net.

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Friend to Friend January 2, 2019

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I rode a train to Chicago on New Year’s Eve (I do love being on a train and seeing our towns and cities through the lens of a railroad car window) and had the opportunity to spend 4 hours reading Rob Bell’s book How To Be Here.  As we begin 2019, I found his big question of the book haunting me - What are we here for?  Maybe you are wondering this question as you reflect on the ending of one year and the entry into another?  In the book, Rob shared the experience of writing his first book and staring at a blank word processing document and feeling anxious with the blinking line in the upper left-hand corner.  He wasn’t prepared for how intimidating that blinking line would be.  That blinking line of the blank page was taunting him.  As he talked about staring at a blinking cursor, I could feel his sense of uncertainty within myself of what do I need to bring into existence on the blinking line of the blank word document?  What does this world need from our unique selves?

 

I believe in the idea that we are co-creators with God and that creation is unfinished and constantly evolving and creation needs our contributions, that which we are called to give.  What is stopping me from writing on that blank page?  Could the blinking line be asking us the question of who are we to do this?  “That question can be paralyzing.  It can prevent us from overcoming inertia.  It can cause crippling doubt and stress.  It can keep us stuck on the couch while life passes us by.”  We might be stuck in our heads with the failures of our past.  The 13th century Islamic scholar and mystic Rumi says ‘Your life has been a mad gamble.  Make it more so.  You have lost now a hundred times running.  Roll the dice a hundred and one.”  

 

I invite each of us in 2019 to start putting ourselves into that blank document and find God’s calling that makes us come alive.

 Beth


Joys & Concerns



Let’s all give a big thanks to our food pantry volunteers from Wednesday, December 19th: Kathy and Bill F, Christie M, Mara S, Beth S, Linda and Rik L, and Jim D. Many thanks to our faithful volunteers!

 

We had a wonderful and inspiring Christmas Eve service here at First Friends with Vicki W, Sam H and Dave B sharing poetry and Eric B, Savannah B and special guest Paula G sharing beautiful music. Thanks to all that participated and attended. Thank you to Kim H for the photos.

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Quaker-Affiliated Organizations


FCNL’s Young Adult Programs! Did you know that Friends Committee on National Legislation (FCNL) has a variety of programs for young adults? Here’s what’s available:

·         The Young Fellows Program allows recently graduated individuals (up to 29 years old) to work as fulltime members of the FCNL staff for 11 months. Benefits include salary (meets DC living wage standard), healthcare, paid vacation, and sick leave. Fellows will be placed on various teams at FCNL, including legislative, communications, and outreach teams. For more information or to apply, visit https://www.fcnl.org/updates/young-fellows-program-32?utm_campaign=yap&utm_medium=email&utm_source=ak Application deadline for this program is February 18, 2019.

·         The Advocacy Corps allows young adults, 19-30 years old, to lead locally-based grassroots campaigns to influence members of Congress. Participants take part in a 10-day immersive training in community organizing, local media outreach, and lobbying. Participants commit 25 hours a month for 9 months and receive a financial stipend. Application deadline for this program is April 19, 2019. For more information visit https://www.fcnl.org/updates/advocacy-corps-34

·         Spring Lobby Weekend is an advocacy event for students happening March 23-26, 2019. This event will include three days of lobby trainings and speakers followed by one day of lobbying on Capitol Hill. This March we will be revisiting our immigration work started at last year’s event, and we are excited to welcome 450 young adults to Washington, DC to tell their stories and make their voices heard! If you have any questions or are interested in recruiting young adults in your area, please contact Larissa@fcnl.org.

·         Summer Internships are also available! If you are looking for an internship this summer, apply for the Summer Internship program. Deadline is March 29, 2019.


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities


Christian Prayer Unity Service ~ At least once a year, Christians are reminded of Jesus’ prayer for his disciples that “they may be one so that the world may believe” (John 17.21). This is an ecumenical service where Christians all over Indianapolis will gather to pray. This year, First Friends Meeting will be hosting the prayer service for Indianapolis on the evening of Sunday, January 20. More details will be released as they become available. We are asking our members and attenders to please donate cookies or snacks for the service—please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org if you can help. Thank you!


Thank you for Making 2018 a Success!!

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Thank you for your support! As we look back on all the memories from 2018, First Friends would like to sincerely thank all Friends who supported us. You were able to make the year full of laughter, fun, joy, comfort, peace, reflection, and holiness. Your year-end contributions and pledges made a big difference! If you haven’t made a pledge yet, it’s not too late! You can send in your pledge to the office (mail, or at office@indyfriends.org) or visit our website at www.indyfriends.org, hover over “Attenders” at the top and select “Make a Pledge for 2019”. We couldn’t thrive without you, so thank you for the donations of time, money, and all your support! Let’s make another great year in 2019.  

Sunday School will resume this Sunday, January 6th! We hope you will join us at 9:00am!

PreK – 5th grade in our large children’s room

6th - 12th grade in the basement

The following adult classes will be offered:

Seeking Friends - Bob Henry will lead the group through the rest of Brian McLaren book, We Make the Road by Walking. After we finish that book we will continue the class with another read.

Wired Word (in Coffee Circle classroom) - will be led by Harold M to talk about current events from a spiritual perspective.

Choir - will be meeting in the old children’s library.  Anyone that has a heart for singing is welcome to join.

Nursery care will be available during Sunday School. We hope to see you this Sunday!

Affirmation Class for our youth will resume on Sunday January 13th at 11:00am. Bob will lead the discussion on Quaker Theology. See you there!

 

Martin Luther King Jr Celebration Service ~ Please mark your calendars for a service in celebration of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, organized by the Shalom Zone. It will be held at 11:00am on Monday, January 21, 2019 at Cross and Crown Lutheran Church, 5233 E 79th St. We will gather together as a community of churches to remember and celebrate Dr. King’s dream of racial harmony and social justice in America. This commemorative service is a public testament of our common values as communities of faith actively seeking the shalom of the city as the prophet Jeremiah reminds us. Through the inspirational words of Dr. King and in the singing of songs of hope and freedom and as we share a luncheon with our neighbors, we become renewed and refreshed for the new work ahead. For more information please visit https://goo.gl/L5wGxN. If you’d like to volunteer, please sign up here: https://www.signupgenius.com/go/70a0f4ca4ad2ea20-mlkservice

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Friend to Friend December 19, 2018

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Last year I was introduced to the Howard Thurman book, The Mood of Christmas and Other Celebrations. The poems and essays really spoke to me; I have re-read it this Christmas season and I have gained new insights.  Here is an excerpt from The Singing of Angels:

 

"There must be always remaining in every man’s life some place for the singing of angels - some place for that which in itself is breathlessly beautiful and by an inherent prerogative throwing all the rest of life into a new and created relatedness. Something that gathers up in itself all the freshets of experience from drab and commonplace areas of living and glows in one bright white light of penetrating beauty and meaning - then passes.  The commonplace is shot through now with new glory - old burdens become lighter, deep and ancient wounds lose much of their old, old hurting. A crown is placed over our heads that for the rest of our lives we are trying to grow tall enough to wear.  Despite all of the crassness of life, despite the hardness of life, despite all of the harsh discords of life, life is saved by the singing of angels. 

 

If the theme of the angels’ song is to find fulfillment in the world, it will be through the common man’s becoming aware of his true worthfulness an asserting his generic prerogatives as a child of God. The diplomats, the politicians, the statesmen, the lords of business and religion will never bring peace in the world.  Violence is the behavior pattern of Power in the modern world, and violence has its own etiquette and ritual, and its own morality.”

 

May we all grow into our crowns, saved by the singing of angels and fulfilling this song through our efforts for peace.

Beth


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This past Sunday we enjoyed our Children’s Christmas Pageant put on by our kids! Thank you to them for sharing with us the Christmas Story. Also many thanks to Chrissy S and Foster S for being our Mary and baby Jesus, and thanks to Beth H, the organizer and director of the event! (Photos provided by Kim H and Bob H.)

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We had a great time Caroling
on Sunday! We stopped at The Stratford, American Village, and the Forum before finishing the night at Steak n’ Shake. We got to see dear Friends, sing the night away, & bring cheer to some very deserving people. Thank you to all who came! (Photos by Bob H)

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Thank you to everyone in our Meeting and community who volunteered to bring in gifts for our sponsored families this Christmas. Easterseals picked up the packages this week and were astounded by your generosity! They were moved and are certain the families will be overjoyed. The packages filled up their car impressively. Thank you everyone!

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We had lots of fun at the annual Christmas Tea this past Sunday! Thank you to everyone who brought in cookies to share. It was a great time as we enjoyed each other’s company, some delightful tea, and some tasty treats! Thank you to Jody L for organizing the event, and to Kim H for providing us pictures!

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Quaker-Affiliated Organizations


FCNL’s Young Adult Programs! Did you know that Friends Committee on National Legislation (FCNL) has a variety of programs for young adults? Here’s what’s available:

·         The Young Fellows Program allows recently graduated individuals (up to 29 years old) to work as fulltime members of the FCNL staff for 11 months. Benefits include salary (meets DC living wage standard), healthcare, paid vacation, and sick leave. Fellows will be placed on various teams at FCNL, including legislative, communications, and outreach teams. For more information or to apply, visit https://www.fcnl.org/updates/young-fellows-program-32?utm_campaign=yap&utm_medium=email&utm_source=ak Application deadline for this program is February 18, 2019.

·         The Advocacy Corps allows young adults, 19-30 years old, to lead locally-based grassroots campaigns to influence members of Congress. Participants take part in a 10-day immersive training in community organizing, local media outreach, and lobbying. Participants commit 25 hours a month for 9 months and receive a financial stipend. Application deadline for this program is April 19, 2019. For more information visit https://www.fcnl.org/updates/advocacy-corps-34

·         Spring Lobby Weekend is an advocacy event for students happening March 23-26, 2019. This event will include three days of lobby trainings and speakers followed by one day of lobbying on Capitol Hill. This March we will be revisiting our immigration work started at last year’s event, and we are excited to welcome 450 young adults to Washington, DC to tell their stories and make their voices heard! If you have any questions or are interested in recruiting young adults in your area, please contact Larissa@fcnl.org.

·         Summer Internships are also available! If you are looking for an internship this summer, apply for the Summer Internship program. Deadline is March 29, 2019.


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities

Notices:

Office Notice: The office will be closed for the holidays Monday and Tuesday December 24-25.

Friend to Friend News: Please note that there will be no Friend to Friend next week due to Christmas and the holidays. Look for our next issue Wednesday, January 2nd.

Sunday School Notice: There will be no Sunday school on the next two Sundays, December 23rd or 30th.

Singalong Notice ~ Friends, please note that we will not hold our monthly Singalong in the Parlor in December. We will begin again in January.

We wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

 

Men’s Threshing Together ~ If you are interested in gathering with other men who mull over current issues or topics, where all points of view are heard, no decisions are made, and all in a non-threatening atmosphere over a meal, then Threshing Together is for you! Join us for our next meeting on Thursday, December 20 at 7:00pm. See locations here: https://goo.gl/HosLVg

 

Festival of Carols ~ The Indianapolis Symphonic Choir Presents Festival of Carols! Dan R and Bill P are both part of this group. Make 2018 the holiday season you will forever remember! With 5 performances to choose from, the Midwest’s beloved holiday tradition includes your favorite carols and Christmas music featuring the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra and musical surprises for kids from 1 to 92. Performances will be December 21-December 23 at the Palladium at the Center for Performing Arts. For more information or to buy tickets, visit indychoir.org!


Join us on Sunday, December 23 for a Special Meeting for Worship!  You have been asking for a service filled with the singing of carols during the holiday season, and we have heard your request. On Sunday the 23rd, we will have a special Service of Carols and Their Stories.  Come learn the stories behind some of our favorite Christmas carols and then join in singing them together.  It should be a lovely morning of celebrating the season. Also, the service will include a time of waiting worship in the manner of Friends.  Bring your voices and be ready to sing! 

 

Reflections of Peace, Joy, and Hope: A Service of Poetry and Song:  This Christmas Eve, Dec 24, join us at 5:30pm for a special Christmas Eve family worship that will include reflective poems, special music, and a story for the children - all to help us enter our Christmas celebration!  Join us as we reflect and celebrate together this Christmas Eve.      

 

Oak Leaf Meeting for Reading ~ Join our Oak Leaf Meeting for Reading book group for Thursday December 27th’s pick ~ American Fire by Monica Hesse. We will meet at 7pm at the home of Carolyn Tinsley. Do you need directions, and/or are you interested in being on the Oak Leaf email list? Please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org. You can view our book list for 2018 here: https://goo.gl/A7bm2r.

 

Unprogrammed worship on Sunday, December 30 – Please note that due to the holidays we will be holding unprogrammed worship in the parlor on December 30th at our usual time of 10:15. This is a nice quiet time for us to worship in the traditional Quaker manner. We hope you will join us if you can. Happy holidays!

 

Martin Luther King Jr Celebration Service ~ Please mark your calendars for a service in celebration of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, organized by the Shalom Zone. It will be held at 11:00am on Monday, January 21, 2019 at Cross and Crown Lutheran Church, 5233 E 79th St. We will gather together as a community of churches to remember and celebrate Dr. King’s dream of racial harmony and social justice in America. This commemorative service is a public testament of our common values as communities of faith actively seeking the shalom of the city as the prophet Jeremiah reminds us. Through the inspirational words of Dr. King and in the singing of songs of hope and freedom and as we share a luncheon with our neighbors, we become renewed and refreshed for the new work ahead. For more information, or if you’d like to help/volunteer, please visit https://goo.gl/L5wGxN

 

Meditational Woods Bird of the Month for December:
Tufted Titmouse – The Rock

If you have a bird feeder at home, you probably know this species. Tufted Titmouse is in the same family as the chickadees and is often seen with them. The gray color, crest, black eye on a pale cheek, and an orange patch on the side, clinch the identification. This bird is a fussy one, always warning of danger, especially when the danger is a human. The fussing sound titmice make is easily imitated and can be used to bring a titmouse closer. It is called “pishing”. To do it, make a shh sound (as if you are quieting someone down), but start it off with your mouth shaped to say a “p” before the shh. Do it over and over. If there is a titmouse around, it will likely come over to see what the trouble is.

The bird is very dependable in the neighborhoods around our meeting, and it visits our woods often. So dependable, that I could give it the nickname…The Rock. Jesus gave the nickname to one of his disciples, one who was very dependable (except for that one bad night of triple denial). So, what is the tie-in? After several weeks of bleak midwinter weather, we will have a sunny, perhaps balmy, day. You may hear a male Tufted Titmouse sing, even though it is late December or early January. What is its song?

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“Peter, peter…peter, peter”

Get it? Dependable Tufted Titmouse: Peter: The Rock (Matthew 16:18)

~Brad J

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Friend to Friend December 12, 2018

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Teeth-chattering, brisk, cracking, wind-burned, shivering, brittle, frost-bitten, chilled, numb…

Photo by Bob Henry

Photo by Bob Henry

 Have you ever noticed how the bitter cold has its own vocabulary?  It speaks to the conditions created by uncommon weather. Those in arctic regions most-likely utilize these words on a daily basis. We know in Indiana that soon the temperatures will drop to freezing and stay there for several days or even weeks. And sadly, those cold temps will cause uninsulated pipes to break, electric lines to snap, and roads to become too dangerous to travel, finding us gathered in our homes wrapped in blankets by fireplaces and woodstoves.    

“Not prepared,” will be the verdict by those on the local news channels. 

Not prepared for cold temps, not prepared for power outages, not prepared for pipes breaking, and definitely not prepared for slowing down life.

Yet, when bundled up with a cup of hot cocoa, a nice fuzzy blanket, and a warm fire a glow, it seems like this should have been the plan all along.

I have realized, I may not be prepared for everything that comes at me in life. The dropping temps, the pipe I didn’t check, the traffic jam due to the unexpected snowpacolypse, all can become catalysts for being better prepared in the future. I think we all could use a night bundled up in front of a fire or around some lit candles that frees us to just “be.”  

Life often takes on the vocabulary with which I began this post. Maybe you are numb to life right now. Maybe you are cracking or your teeth are chattering because of fear. Maybe chills run up and down as you doubt, question, or await what is around the next corner. Maybe your life seems brittle and ready to fall apart at any second. And probably, the newscasters of your life are all claiming you “not prepared.”  

Let’s be honest, I don’t think Mary and Joseph were ready to have a baby in a stinky animal stall that first Christmas night. As all newbie parents, they weren’t ready for the awkwardness of a first child. Come on…they hadn’t even planned to have a baby. Nor did they plan on all the trouble of trying to explain the pregnancy to family and friends before the birth.  

So, through the craziness, busyness, and lack of preparation, may God help our eyes to be opened, our ears to hear, our souls to slow down. May we come to a quiet space at the manger and be reminded that we will never be fully prepared or ready – and that may be ok and just what we need. 

Happy Holidays, 

Bob


Joys & Concerns

Many Thanks to last week’s food pantry volunteers:  Kathy R, Mara S, Bill F, Beth F, Ray G, Tom F, Linda and Rik L, Carol and Jim D. The Mid North Food Pantry thanks all of those at First Friends who help as volunteers and who contribute to the ongoing needs of the pantry.

Photo by Bob Henry

Photo by Bob Henry

 A Note from Shawn P: “First Friends Family: It was such a joy to sing for you last week with the Royal Sensation choir. We want to thank you for the very kind and generous freewill offering taken to help our groups at HSEHS. Merry Christmas to you all! -Shawn” (photo right)

Thank you for making Vespers a success! This past Sunday we held our annual Vespers service. We heard many talented musicians, including our own Handbell Choir, Eric B, Anna R, guest saxophone player Josh W, and our dedicated choir. Many thanks to our performers and everyone else who helped make this year’s Vespers a success, including but not limited to: all members of our choir; our volunteer ushers Shawn H, Jed K, and Ed M; our Fellowship Committee who put on a fantastic dinner for the huge crowd we had; and of course our members, attenders, and everyone else who supports our Meeting financially or otherwise. You all have made it possible for us to put on this wonderful Holiday service. Thank you!! (Photos below; see more on our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/indyfriends)

Thank you to Kathy Rhyne for all Vespers photos.

Thank you to Kathy Rhyne for all Vespers photos.

Photo by Kathy Rhyne

Photo by Kathy Rhyne

Our Affirmation Class Thanks You! A BIG Thank-You to everyone who helped support our Affirmation Class this past Sunday when we sold cookies- and soup-in-a-jar and fresh baked bread (right). 

It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of Dale Graves. Dale passed Monday morning with family members present at his bedside. Please hold his family and many F/friends in the light. His presence will be greatly missed. You can find his obituary at https://indiana.funeral.com/2018/12/09/dale-graves/. A memorial service is being planned for January 5, with more details to follow in coming days.


Announcements, Reports & Opportunities



December Meetings Notice: Please note that there will be no Monthly Meeting for Business or Clerks’ Council Meeting this month due to Christmas activities. We wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! 



Sunday School Notice: This Sunday, December 16 will be our last day of Sunday School this year. There will be no Sunday school on either Sunday, December 23rd or 30th. Happy Holidays!


Photo by Kathy Rhyne

Photo by Kathy Rhyne

Help a family in need this Christmas! This year we are partnering with Easterseals to help two local families this holiday season. We have a tree in the foyer of the Meetinghouse with tags that you can take. Simply buy and wrap the gift and bring it back to the Meetinghouse. Please make sure all gifts are in by this Monday, December 17. Please help us make this year a special one for these families!



Thank you for your pledges! First Friends would like to sincerely thank all Friends in support of our ministries. We are grateful to everyone who’s turned in a pledge for 2019 and/or have turned on automatic donations through their bank. This helps us plan a budget for the new year and plan wonderful Ministry & Fellowship activities such as Vespers. If you’d like to make a pledge for 2019, you can fill out a card at the Meetinghouse, fill out our online form at https://goo.gl/forms/aEQnYpXva2a0MvWo2 or simply contact the office. As we close out 2018, we hope you will consider including First Friends in your year-end giving.  


Youth Christmas Party! We invite all of our youth to join us this Friday, December 14 for our annual Christmas party! It will be 6:30-9:00pm in the basement. We will have games, activities, dinner, and a gift exchange! Please bring a wrapped gift ($5 or less). It promises to be a holly jolly evening!

 

Children’s Pageant ~ Join us during our Meeting for Worship this Sunday, December 16 as our children depict and read the story of Jesus' birth. As well, the congregation will join in with singing hymns together. This is an annual tradition that you do not want to miss! 



Annual Christmas Tea ~ Please join us this Sunday, December 16th immediately after worship in the parlor for the annual Christmas Tea. There will be lots of cookies and punch and fellowship. If you can donate two dozen cookies, they can be dropped off 10-11am, Saturday, December 15th or the morning of Sunday, December 16th in the parlor. For more information contact the office at office@indyfriends.org. Happy holidays! 



Christmas Caroling ~ Fa La La La La! Joy to the World! Deck the Halls! It's time to clear your throats and get ready to bring some Christmas cheer through singing some carols! Join us on Sunday, December 16—we’ll meet at 3:20pm the home of Tom & Pat P at The Stratford in Carmel. We’ll start caroling at 3:30, then move to American Village at 4:30 and The Forum at 5:30. Make sure to bring the kids as we will again be heading to Steak and Shake afterward for dinner! This should be a fun night for the entire family!

 Meditational Woods Bird of the Month for December:
Tufted Titmouse – The Rock

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If you have a bird feeder at home, you probably know this species. Tufted Titmouse is in the same family as the chickadees and is often seen with them. The gray color, crest, black eye on a pale cheek, and an orange patch on the side, clinch the identification. This bird is a fussy one, always warning of danger, especially when the danger is a human. The fussing sound titmice make is easily imitated and can be used to bring a titmouse closer. It is called “pishing”. To do it, make a shh sound (as if you are quieting someone down), but start it off with your mouth shaped to say a “p” before the shh. Do it over and over. If there is a titmouse around, it will likely come over to see what the trouble is.

The bird is very dependable in the neighborhoods around our meeting, and it visits our woods often. So dependable, that I could give it the nickname…The Rock. Jesus gave the nickname to one of his disciples, one who was very dependable (except for that one bad night of triple denial). So, what is the tie-in? After several weeks of bleak midwinter weather, we will have a sunny, perhaps balmy, day. You may hear a male Tufted Titmouse sing, even though it is late December or early January. What is its song?

“Peter, peter…peter, peter” 

Get it? Dependable Tufted Titmouse: Peter: The Rock (Matthew 16:18)

~ Brad J



Men’s Threshing Together ~ If you are interested in gathering with other men who mull over current issues or topics, where all points of view are heard, no decisions are made, and all in a non-threatening atmosphere over a meal, then Threshing Together is for you! Join us for our next meeting on Thursday, December 20 at 7:00pm. See locations here: https://goo.gl/HosLVg 

Mark your calendars for Oak Leaf book club titles for 2019!  If you’d like to be on the email list for the group please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org. 

January 29 ~ A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza 

February 26 ~ Less by Andrew Sean Greer

March 26 ~ On the Brink of Everything by Parker J Palmer

April 30 ~ The End of Your Life Book Club by Will Schwalbe

May 28 ~ Unsheltered by Barbara Kingsolver

June 25 ~ Killers of the Flower Moon by David Grann

July 30 ~ The Great Alone by Kristin Hannah

August 27 ~ Thank You for Being Late by Thomas L Friedman

September 24 ~ Lab Girl by Hope Jahren

October 29 ~ The Book of Joy by Dalai Lama XIV and Desmond Tutu

November 26 ~ Educated by Tara Westover

December 30 ~ The Woman Who Smashed Codes by Jason Fagone

The group meets at 7pm in the Parlor. All are invited!

Festival of Carols ~ The Indianapolis Symphonic Choir Presents Festival of Carols! Dan R and Bill P are both part of this group. Make 2018 the holiday season you will forever remember! With 5 performances to choose from, the Midwest’s beloved holiday tradition includes your favorite carols and Christmas music featuring the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra and musical surprises for kids from 1 to 92. Performances will be December 21-December 23 at the Palladium at the Center for Performing Arts. For more information or to buy tickets, visit indychoir.org!


Join us on Sunday, December 23 for a Special Meeting for Worship!  You have been asking for a service filled with the singing of carols during the holiday season, and we have heard your request. On Sunday the 23rd, we will have a special Service of Carols and Their Stories.  Come learn the stories behind some of our favorite Christmas carols and then join in singing them together.  It should be a lovely morning of celebrating the season. Also, the service will include a time of waiting worship in the manner of Friends.  Bring your voices and be ready to sing! 

Reflections of Peace, Joy, and Hope: A Service of Poetry and Song:  This Christmas Eve, Dec 24, join us at 5:30pm for a special Christmas Eve family worship that will include reflective poems, special music, and a story for the children - all to help us enter our Christmas celebration!  Join us as we reflect and celebrate together this Christmas Eve.

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Friend to Friend December 5, 2018

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This Past Saturday I had the honor of conducting the funeral service of my cousin Leland Boren from Upland IN.  He led an amazing life as an entrepreneur, philanthropist and man of deep faith. He and his wife LaRita (who preceded him in death 7 years ago) were incredibly generous with their resources and have touched many people’s lives across the country.   Colleges and not for profits across Indiana have been the recipients of their generous support.  And yet Leland was a complicated man.  I worked for him the first three years out of college and it was not an easy time.  He challenged everyone to be their best but sometimes his approach with people was difficult.  He never attended college and went to work in a manufacturing company and worked his way up to become president of that company.  He then acquired many other companies and built quite a significant group of businesses.  What is inspiring to me about Leland is that he never allowed himself to be defined by what he was not.  He lived out his faith in the ways he felt called by God.

During the service, his dear friend Bill Gaither and the Gaither Vocal Band sang several songs and Bill shared remembrances about his friend and business partner.  Prior to the start of the service, I introduced myself to Bill and in five minutes he shared a story about a time 40 years ago when his brother in law challenged his faith and Bill began to question what he really did believe.  He was traveling the country with his musical family and could share songs of faith with his eyes closed and began to wonder if he was a fraud.  Elton Trueblood became inspirational to him during this crisis of faith.  Here is an icon of Christian music and he was describing his own “dark night of the soul."

I think about these two men and their impact on our world and observe how God uses us in our complications, our weaknesses, our limitations and our crises of faith.  All of our heroes of all time were flawed and yet they never allowed themselves to be defined and held down but what they lacked.  I think sometimes we embrace our weaknesses and limitations as excuses to why we don’t listen to God’s calling.  The world hungers for each of our special gifts and I pray today that each of us will listen to how God calls us to impact our community.

https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/thestarpress/obituary.aspx?n=leland-emerson-boren&pid=190841854&fhid=14590

Beth


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities


Choir Notice for Sunday ~ Please note, in preparation for the busy upcoming Sunday, the choir will meet at 8:30am this Sunday December 9th instead of the usual 9:00am.

 

Sunday School Notice: Sunday, December 16 will be our last day of Sunday School this year. There will be no Sunday school on either Sunday, December 23rd or 30th. Happy Holidays!

 

Help a family in need this Christmas! This year we are partnering with Easterseals to help two local families this holiday season. We have a tree in the foyer of the Meetinghouse with tags that you can take. Simply buy and wrap the gift and bring it back to the Meetinghouse. Please help us make this year a special one for these families!

 

Babysitting Co-Op ~ Our babysitting co-op is happening this Saturday December 8th from 5:30 - 9:30, hosted by Kathy R & Beth H. Dinner will be provided for the kids. Please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org if you would like to have your kids join in the fun that evening!

 

Bake with Us! Want to slow down while learning how to make delicious, nutritious sourdough bread?! Join us Saturday, December 8th from 6 to 7:30 pm at the Meeting house and you'll learn how to make your very own bread! Bring a sturdy spoon for stirring, a large bowl that can hold at least 3 quarts, and a digital scale, but if you don't have some of these things you are still welcome. We'll finish the process with bread shaping and baking Sunday morning at 9 am before meeting for worship. Our bread will be ready after meeting for worship. We can hold about 16 people in the Meeting kitchen. Please RSVP to the office at office@indyfriends.org.

 

Please support our Affirmation class! Please see us in Fellowship Hall after Meeting for Worship this Sunday, December 9 where Beth H and our youth will be selling cookies and soup in a jar as well as fresh-baked bread to raise funds for affirmation class. All of these items make great holiday gifts! We hope to see you there!

 

Vespers Annual Concert~ This Sunday, December 9th at 5:30pm we invite you to attend our annual Vespers concert, “A Season to Celebrate.” Our performers have been practicing hard for this concert, and it should be quite a delight. Following the concert there will be a complimentary light dinner, hosted by our Fellowship Committee. Childcare will be provided. Please plan to join us for the evening!

 

The Indy Winds Flute Choir will present their winter concert on Sunday December 9th at 3:00pm at Roberts Park United Methodist Church.  There will be a combination of Christmas music and other classical music.  Carl B and Lynda S will both be performing.  Lynda will be the featured soloist in a beautiful arrangement of “O Holy Night”.  The concert will run about two hours, but if you’re worried about getting to Vespers on time, there will be an intermission around 4:00.

 

Youth Christmas Party! We invite all of our youth to join us on Friday, December 14 for our annual Christmas party! It will be 6:30-9:00pm in the basement. We will have games, activities, dinner, and a gift exchange! Please bring a wrapped gift ($5 or less). It promises to be a magical evening!

Children’s Pageant ~ Join us during our Meeting for Worship on Sunday, December 16 as our children depict and read the story of Jesus' birth. As well, the congregation will join in with singing hymns together. This is an annual tradition that you do not want to miss!

 

Annual Christmas Tea ~ Please join us on December 16th immediately after worship in the parlor for the annual Christmas Tea. There will be lots of cookies and punch and fellowship. If you can donate two dozen cookies, they can be dropped off 10-11am, Saturday, December 15th or the morning of Sunday, December 16th in the parlor. For more information contact the office at office@indyfriends.org. Happy holidays!

 

Christmas Caroling ~ Fa La La La La! Joy to the World! Deck the Halls! It's time to clear your throats and get ready to bring some Christmas cheer through singing some carols! Join us on Sunday, December 16—we’ll meet at the home of Tom & Pat P at The Stratford in Carmel. We’ll start caroling at 3:30, then move to American Village at 4:30 and The Forum at 5:30. Make sure to bring the kids as we will again be heading to Steak and Shake afterward for dinner! This should be a fun night for the entire family!

 

Meditational Woods Bird of the Month for November: Carolina Chickadee

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Like other folks, I have in the past been confused by people who are similar in appearance. That is, I’m talking to someone and suddenly realize my conversation is not making any sense because I have confused that someone with someone else. This has happened in the hallway at First Friends, and with my students, and even one time in college when I mistook a girl I was dating for another girl I had known in the past (but I digress). There is never an easy way out of this situation; perhaps one should just apologize, and admit the confusion.

The Bird-of-the-Month for November has an almost twin, and causes confusion in identification. It is a chickadee, and has a black cap, but is NOT a Black-capped Chickadee. It is, instead, a Carolina Chickadee, and frequents our Meditational Woods. It is especially noticeable this time of year when it searches for food in the absence of most other species. So what makes it different from its look-alike? Besides very minor differences in the bib and in the amount of white in the wing, there is a difference in the song. Black-caps sing, “fee bee-bee” (“He did it.”), while Carolinas sing, “fee-bee fee-bay.” There is also a difference in the way each calls, “chick-a-dee-dee-dee.” Finally their range differs. Imagine a line across Indiana from Ft. Wayne west to north of Lafayette. North of this line are Black-capped Chickadees, while south of the line, where we are, is Carolina Chickadee country.

You are forgiven if you mistakenly call our birds Black-capped, just as I hope you will forgive me next time we talk in the hallway, and I’m not making any sense!! ~ Brad J

 

Mark your calendars for Oak Leaf book club titles for 2019!  If you’d like to be on the email list for the group please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org.

January 29 ~ A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza

February 26 ~ Less by Andrew Sean Greer

March 26 ~ On the Brink of Everything by Parker J Palmer

April 30 ~ The End of Your Life Book Club by Will Schwalbe

May 28 ~ Unsheltered by Barbara Kingsolver

June 25 ~ Killers of the Flower Moon by David Grann

July 30 ~ The Great Alone by Kristin Hannah

August 27 ~ Thank You for Being Late by Thomas L Friedman

September 24 ~ Lab Girl by Hope Jahren

October 29 ~ The Book of Joy by Dalai Lama XIV and Desmond Tutu

November 26 ~ Educated by Tara Westover

December 30 ~ The Woman Who Smashed Codes by Jason Fagone

The group meets at 7pm in the Parlor. All are invited!

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Festival of Carols ~ The Indianapolis Symphonic Choir Presents Festival of Carols! Dan R and Bill P are both part of this group. Make 2018 the holiday season you will forever remember! With 5 performances to choose from, the Midwest’s beloved holiday tradition includes your favorite carols and Christmas music featuring the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra and musical surprises for kids from 1 to 92. Performances will be December 9 at the Warren Performing Arts Center and December 21-December 23 at the Palladium at the Center for Performing Arts. For more information or to buy tickets, visit indychoir.org!

 

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Friend to Friend November 28, 2018

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For some reason, this year I am experiencing mixed feelings about the holidays. It may be both the current condition of our world and the angst of all the extra stuff added to our schedules during the month of December. Sadly, I know several people who are actually looking forward to the holidays being over before they even begin. If holiday anxiety already has you in its clutches, maybe it is time to embrace the Quaker Way of pausing to center yourself and reflecting on just what this season truly offers and how you are being called to respond. Our Friends at New England Yearly Meeting have put together a set of Christmas Queries that have helped me reflect and prepare as I enter the Holidays. I encourage you to spend some time in the coming days utilizing them to mind your Inner Light and prepare for this holy season.

 

On Simplicity:

In this time of commercialism, how do you reflect values of simplicity? In what ways do you and your family reflect on the significance of Jesus' life and his teachings regarding simplicity? Is your gift giving in line with these values? Have you been able to find rituals that enhance the experience of the Inner Light?

 

On Peace:

At this time of year, there is more attention given to "Peace on Earth." Is there significance in the birth of Jesus, the "Prince of Peace" that calls us to actively seek peace? What do you do to promote peace in the world? Are you able to find inner peace in the midst of everyday business? Do you walk gently and peacefully on the Earth, seeking that of God in others and in nature?

 

On Light:

In this time of winter darkness and cold, where do you find Light in your Life? As the shepherds waited for the good news, do you wait with an open heart for revelation? How do you and your family seek the Light and share it with others? Have you been able to find rituals that enhance the experience of the Inner Light?

 

On Preparation:

How does your family get ready for Christmas? What do you wish your family did around Christmas? At what age did you start giving presents to other people? Did someone work on them with you?

 

Grace and Peace,

Bob


Joys & Concerns

Many thanks to Leslie K & Barbara D who decorated the Meetinghouse so beautifully for Christmas. What a blessing to have her set up our space for the upcoming holiday season! We hope you will join us in December to come see Leslie’s decorations!

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This past Sunday was our Service of Remembrance and grief gathering following Meeting for Worship. We welcomed Rev. Marsha Hutchinson to our pulpit and to help facilitate our gathered time. During the service we lit candles to honor those who died this past year. Thanks to all those who participated in this beautiful time.

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Thanks to our food pantry volunteers! Last Wednesday, First Friends had more volunteers than ever before in the many years of its helping at the Mid North Food Pantry.  Volunteers included: Christie M, Dan H, Tom F, Kathy and Bill F, Ray G, John , Rik and Linda L, Kathy R, Carol and Jim D, and Chrissy, Trent, Graham, Berlynn and Foster Lee (the youngest person to ever volunteer at the pantry) S.  While it was an unusual day in that the pantry was not very busy, all volunteers were very much appreciated.  Also, a check from First Friends in the amount of $990 was provided to the pantry.  The pantry thanked First Friends for its generous contribution and many loyal volunteers.


Quaker-Affiliated Organizations

 Friends Committee on National Legislation (FCNL) is proud to share that Beth H’s written piece about the role the US is playing in the Yemen crisis was recently published in the Fort Wayne Journal Gazette! You can find her piece online at http://www.journalgazette.net/opinion/columns/20181127/us-complicit-in-saudis-war-atrocities-in-yemen.


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities

 

Blood Drive! Please join us for a blood drive held in conjunction with the Indiana Blood Center on Sunday, December 2nd from 9:00am-1:00pm in Fellowship Hall. If you would like to schedule a time, visit https://www.donorpoint.org/donor/schedules/drive_schedule/124166. Donors must be 17 years old (16 with signed parent permission slip), meet height /weight eligibility requirements, be in good general health, and present a photo I.D. at registration. To view eligibility, visit https://www.donorpoint.org/donor/schedules/drive_schedule/124166. If you have any other questions, please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org.

Help a family in need this Christmas! This year we are partnering with Easterseals to help two local families this holiday season. We will soon have a tree in the foyer of the Meetinghouse with tags that you can take. Simply buy and wrap the gift and bring it back to the Meetinghouse. Please help us make this year a special one for these families!

 

Royal Sensation Choir Performance in Meeting ~ On Sunday, December 2nd, we are pleased to welcome the Royal Sensation choir from Hamilton Southeastern High School. Royal Sensation is under the direction of Shawn P. Please join us in Meeting that day to hear their performance. A goodwill offering will be taken to help support their choir.

 

Babysitting Co-Op ~ Our babysitting co-op is happening on Saturday December 8th from 5:30 - 9:30, hosted by Kathy R & Beth H. Dinner will be provided for the kids. Please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org if you would like to have your kids join in the fun that evening!

 

Please support our Affirmation class! Please see us in Fellowship Hall after Meeting for Worship on Sunday, December 9 where Beth H and our youth will be selling cookies and soup in a jar as well as fresh-baked bread to raise funds for affirmation class. All of these items make great holiday gifts! We hope to see you there!

 

Vespers Annual Concert~ On Sunday, December 9th at 5:30pm we invite you to attend our annual Vespers concert, “A Season to Celebrate.” Our performers have been practicing hard for this concert, and it should be quite a delight. Following the concert there will be a complimentary light dinner, hosted by our Fellowship Committee. Childcare will be provided. Please plan to join us for the evening!

 

Talk to Congress – Letter Writing Project ~ Thank you to everyone who participated in our letter writing project for November. Please note, we won’t have letter writing in December, due to the holidays. Have a Merry Christmas!

Get rid of your ugly Christmas sweaters! Shawn P’s Hamilton Southeastern school choir’s holiday performance this year includes a song about ugly Christmas sweaters and the choir is in need of donations. If you have an ugly Christmas sweater that you no longer need, please consider donating it. If you have a sweater you’d like to give, please pass them onto Shawn on Sunday morning or bring them to the meeting office. Thank you for your help!  

 

Bake with Us! Want to slow down while learning how to make delicious, nutritious sourdough bread?! Join us Saturday, December 8th from 6 to 7:30 pm at the Meeting house and you'll learn how to make your very own bread! Bring a sturdy spoon for stirring, a large bowl that can hold at least 3 quarts, and a digital scale, but if you don't have some of these things you are still welcome. We'll finish the process with bread shaping and baking Sunday morning at 9 am before meeting for worship. Our bread will be ready after meeting for worship. We can hold about 16 people in the Meeting kitchen. Please RSVP to the office at office@indyfriends.org.  

 

The Indy Winds Flute Choir will present their winter concert on Sunday December 9th at 3:00pm at Roberts Park United Methodist Church.  There will be a combination of Christmas music and other classical music.  Carl B and Lynda S will both be performing.  Lynda will be the featured soloist in a beautiful arrangement of “O Holy Night”.  The concert will run about two hours, but if you’re worried about getting to Vespers on time, there will be an intermission around 4:00.

 

Youth Christmas Party! We invite all of our youth to join us on Friday, December 14 for our annual Christmas party! It will be 6:30-9:00pm in the basement. We will have games, activities, dinner, and a gift exchange! Please bring a wrapped gift ($5 or less). It promises to be a magical evening!

Children’s Pageant ~ Join us during our Meeting for Worship on Sunday, December 16 as our children depict and read the story of Jesus' birth. As well, the congregation will join in with singing hymns together. This is an annual tradition that you do not want to miss!

 

Annual Christmas Tea ~ Please join us on December 16th immediately after worship in the parlor for the annual Christmas Tea. There will be lots of cookies and punch and fellowship. If you can donate two dozen cookies, they can be dropped off 10-11am, Saturday, December 15th or the morning of Sunday, December 16th in the parlor. For more information contact the office at office@indyfriends.org. Happy holidays!

 

Meditational Woods Bird of the Month for November:
Carolina Chickadee

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Like other folks, I have in the past been confused by people who are similar in appearance. That is, I’m talking to someone and suddenly realize my conversation is not making any sense because I have confused that someone with someone else. This has happened in the hallway at First Friends, and with my students, and even one time in college when I mistook a girl I was dating for another girl I had known in the past (but I digress). There is never an easy way out of this situation; perhaps one should just apologize, and admit the confusion.

The Bird-of-the-Month for November has an almost twin, and causes confusion in identification. It is a chickadee, and has a black cap, but is NOT a Black-capped Chickadee. It is, instead, a Carolina Chickadee, and frequents our Meditational Woods. It is especially noticeable this time of year when it searches for food in the absence of most other species. So what makes it different from its look-alike? Besides very minor differences in the bib and in the amount of white in the wing, there is a difference in the song. Black-caps sing, “fee bee-bee” (“He did it.”), while Carolinas sing, “fee-bee fee-bay.” There is also a difference in the way each calls, “chick-a-dee-dee-dee.” Finally their range differs. Imagine a line across Indiana from Ft. Wayne west to north of Lafayette. North of this line are Black-capped Chickadees, while south of the line, where we are, is Carolina Chickadee country.

You are forgiven if you mistakenly call our birds Black-capped, just as I hope you will forgive me next time we talk in the hallway, and I’m not making any sense!! ~ Brad J

 

Mark your calendars for Oak Leaf book club titles for 2019!  If you’d like to be on the email list for the group please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org

January 29 ~ A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza

February 26 ~ Less by Andrew Sean Greer

March 26 ~ On the Brink of Everything by Parker J Palmer

April 30 ~ The End of Your Life Book Club by Will Schwalbe

May 28 ~ Unsheltered by Barbara Kingsolver

June 25 ~ Killers of the Flower Moon by David Grann

July 30 ~ The Great Alone by Kristin Hannah

August 27 ~ Thank You for Being Late by Thomas L Friedman

September 24 ~ Lab Girl by Hope Jahren

October 29 ~ The Book of Joy by Dalai Lama XIV and Desmond Tutu

November 26 ~ Educated by Tara Westover

December 30 ~ The Woman Who Smashed Codes by Jason Fagone

The group meets at 7pm in the Parlor. All are invited!

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Work Needed ~ Please see this message from Janice H: As Career Coach at Hawthorne Community Center, I have a client who fled Rwanda on a tourist visa with her two young children a few months ago because her husband disappeared, and people were trying to kill her entire family. She is staying at a shelter and filing for asylum through Ind. Legal Services.She will not have a work permit for 5 months or more and has no pocket money.In the meantime, she is willing to clean houses or do whatever as long as it is a safe situation.She speaks and understands some English and is fluent in French and her mother tongue.Both her children will soon be in school during the day.She doesn't have a car, but Hawthorne has bus passes.She has a bachelor’s degree in management and economics from her homeland. Another need she has is for a spiritual community.If you know of any Haitian or other congregations where French is spoken, I would love to connect her with one. If you know of any work or social service assistance besides the Immigrant Welcome Center and the Exodus Refugee Center, please let the office know at office@indyfriends.org

Festival of Carols ~ The Indianapolis Symphonic Choir Presents Festival of Carols! Dan R and Bill P are both part of this group. Make 2018 the holiday season you will forever remember! With 5 performances to choose from, the Midwest’s beloved holiday tradition includes your favorite carols and Christmas music featuring the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra and musical surprises for kids from 1 to 92. Performances will be December 9 at the Warren Performing Arts Center and December 21-December 23 at the Palladium at the Center for Performing Arts. For more information or to buy tickets, visit indychoir.org!

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Friend to Friend November 21, 2018

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Last evening I participated in an interfaith Thanksgiving service with our Jewish, Christian and Muslim friends from the Northside clergy group.  Our service was held in the magnificent sanctuary at St Paul’s Episcopal church.  Many of us shared scripture, poem, songs and readings together.  There was much ritual to the service but for me last night it was a part of the experience and in our Quaker term “we had a gathered meeting”.  The St Paul’s choir sounded like a heavenly chorus and Rabbi Brett Krichiver from Indianapolis Hebrew Congregation shared an inspiring and challenging message to never put creed and doctrine above love and relationship.  It was a beautiful service that represented our deep bonds of faith and hope together as spiritual seekers.  As the Rabbi said in his message, we all have different names we call God but we are all connected and all are our brothers and sisters in the Divine.  

I shared this poem during the service and brought us into silence as part of the worship experience for a few moments.  And while in that silence the bell chimes rang and we could all feel the moving of the Spirit in the room. It felt like we were experiencing the kingdom of God here on earth.  I am hopeful that during this busy weekend you will take time for silence and reflection and look for that peace within ourselves.

A Prayer for Simplicity and Peace
by Michael Leunig

Dear God,

We give thanks for places of simplicity and peace.

Let us find such a place within ourselves.

 

We give thanks for places of refuge and beauty.

Let us find such a place within ourselves.

 

We give thanks for places of nature’s truth and freedom,

of joy, inspiration, and renewal,

places where all creatures may find acceptance and belonging.

Let us search for these places in the world,

in ourselves, and in others.

Let us restore them. Let us strengthen and protect them,

and let us create them.

 

May we mend this outer world

according to the truth of our inner life

and may our souls be shaped

and nourished by nature’s eternal wisdom.

Beth


Joys & Concerns

Our own Mary B received the Volunteer of the Year award from the Hoosier Environmental Council! Congratulations Mary! Go to our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/Indyfriends to see the video of her accepting the award! For more information you can also read the press release here: https://goo.gl/JHt8Ri.

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Several folks from Indianapolis First Friends gathered on the steps of the State Capital representing Quakers and Indiana Friends Committee on Legislation (IFCL), which is part of a coalition working for redistricting reform in Indiana. The father of gerrymandering, Elbridge Gerry, made a special appearance, along with a brass jazz combo, all to send an upbeat message: Hoosiers want fair redistricting for the state legislature and congressional districts. In addition, you can sign a petition at www.allinfordemocracy.org encouraging Gov. Holcomb to put redistricting reform high on his legislative agenda next session.

 

Youth fun at Greattimes! We had 11 youth join us on Sunday for a trip to Greattimes Fun Park for go-karting, putt-putt golf and an arcade. Everyone enjoyed themselves and Beth is thankful to see how our youth are developing relationships with each other.

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Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities


Thank you for your pledges! First Friends is deeply grateful for the generosity of Friends in support of our ministries and extends a big ‘thank you’ to all of who have turned in pledge cards for 2019. This indication of support for 2019 is helpful as we plan a budget for the New Year. If you haven’t yet pledged, you can fill out and submit a pledge card online at https://goo.gl/forms/aEQnYpXva2a0MvWo2.  The pledge cards will also be available at the Meetinghouse this Sunday November 25.  You can place filled out cards in the offering plate during Meeting for Worship or send to the office.  We have appreciated your support of all the ministries here at First Friends this year with your time, talents and financial resources.  As we close out 2018, we hope you will consider including First Friends in your year-end giving.  

Singalong Notice ~ Friends, please note that we will not hold our monthly Singalong in the Parlor in December. We will begin again in January. Happy holidays!

 

Poinsettias are available for order! You can order a red or white Poinsettia in a 6-inch pot for $8.50 each.  All orders must be submitted to the office by Monday, November 26th. Order forms are available, or you can email your order to the office and send in your check separately. If emailing your order to office@indyfriends.org, please list how many of which color you want, if it is in memory of or in honor of someone, and please put ‘Poinsettia order’ in the memo line of the check when you send it in.

College Care packages - It is time to send care packages to our college students as they prepare for their final exams at school.  We will have boxes out this Sunday for you to fill with goodies like candy, cookies, cards, and other treats. Please bring enough for all 8 of our students. Any money donated will be used to purchase additional items for the boxes. We will be mailing them November 26 so please bring everything in by Sunday, November 25. Thank you for your support!

Grief Gathering on Sunday November 25th after Meeting for Worship - Circle of Care is hosting a lunch and discussion for those who have experienced a loss of a family member or cherished friend.  This lunch and time together is a tangible way our Meeting is demonstrating our care for each other during times of sadness.  Rev Marsha Hutchinson, retired Pastor of Care Minister at St. Luke’s United Methodist Church, will facilitate our discussions that day. We invite anyone that is interested in gathering with others to share and reflect on the experience of loss. Feel free to bring any family members. Please contact the office (office@indyfriends.org) if you plan to attend. Circle of Care at is also exploring other ideas to meet the needs of our members and attenders and would like to know other ways we can support those at First Friends who are dealing with loss and grief. If you have some time, we ask that you please complete a short survey, found here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/8L273QQ. Thank you for your feedback!

Oak Leaf: Meeting For Reading ~ Anyone interested is invited to attend the 5th Annual Potluck Lasagna Holiday Dinner at Ruth K’s house on November 27th at 6:30 pm.  We will be discussing The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood.  Bring a friend, a side dish and a book from home for our annual holiday book swap. Contact the office at office@indyfriends.org if you need directions. The next discussion will be American Fire by Monica Hesse on December 27th at 7 pm.


Get rid of your ugly Christmas sweaters! Shawn Porter’s Hamilton Southeastern school choir’s holiday performance this year includes a song about ugly Christmas sweaters and the choir is in need of donations. If you have an ugly Christmas sweater that you no longer need, please consider donating it. If you have a sweater you’d like to give, please pass them onto Shawn on Sunday morning or bring them to the meeting office. Thank you for your help!  


Work Needed ~ Please see this message from Janice H: As Career Coach at Hawthorne Community Center, I have a client who fled Rwanda on a tourist visa with her two young children a few months ago because her husband disappeared, and people were trying to kill her entire family. She is staying at a shelter and filing for asylum through Ind. Legal Services.  She will not have a work permit for 5 months or more and has no pocket money.  In the meantime, she is willing to clean houses or do whatever as long as it is a safe situation.  She speaks and understands some English and is fluent in French and her mother tongue.  Both her children will soon be in school during the day.  She doesn't have a car, but Hawthorne has bus passes.  She has a bachelor’s degree in management and economics from her homeland. Another need she has is for a spiritual community.  If you know of any Haitian or other congregations where French is spoken, I would love to connect her with one. If you know of any work or social service assistance besides the Immigrant Welcome Center and the Exodus Refugee Center, please let the office know at office@indyfriends.org.

 

Talk to Congress – Letter Writing Project ~ On the last Sunday of each month (this time being Sunday, November 25), Witness and Service is offering an opportunity for you to contact Congress. We will provide information and a sample letter, which addresses a specific issue that is on the Senate and/or House of Representative radar. You are welcome to write/call your legislators about this topic, or any other that might be on your mind. The topics are chosen by Quaker Pastors, Ron and Pam Furgeson, who minister at Winchester Friends here in Indiana. They choose which topics to address based on relevance to our Quaker Testimonies. A writing station will be set up in Fellowship Hall for you to use after meeting for worship. You are welcome to write your thoughts on cards that are provided, take the material home to send later, or (if technology cooperates) send an email from the computer that is set up at the station. Your views are always private. The important part of this effort is to give you an opportunity to speak with those who decide the laws of the land, and to give Quaker/Faith Community input into their decision-making. The featured topic for November is encouraging Congress to end military involvement in Yemen. For more information and a sample letter, please visit https://goo.gl/aiBAz4.


Blood Drive! Please join us for a blood drive held in conjunction with the Indiana Blood Center on Sunday, December 2nd from 9:00am-1:00pm in Fellowship Hall. If you would like to schedule a time, visit https://www.donorpoint.org/donor/schedules/drive_schedule/124166. Donors must be 17 years old (16 with signed parent permission slip), meet height /weight eligibility requirements, be in good general health, and present a photo I.D. at registration. To view eligibility, visit https://www.donorpoint.org/donor/schedules/drive_schedule/124166. If you have any other questions, please contact the office at office@indyfriends.org.


Royal Sensation Choir Performance in Meeting ~ On Sunday, December 2nd, we are pleased to welcome the Royal Sensation choir from Hamilton Southeastern High School. Royal Sensation is under the direction of Shawn P. Please join us in Meeting that day to hear their performance. A goodwill offering will be taken to help support their choir.

 

Bake With Us! Want to slow down while learning how to make delicious, nutritious sourdough bread?! Join us Saturday, Dec 8th from 6 to 7:30 pm at the Meeting house and you'll learn how to make your very own bread! Bring a sturdy spoon for stirring, a large bowl that can hold at least 3 quarts, and a digital scale, but if you don't have some of these things you are still welcome. We'll finish the process with bread shaping and baking Sunday morning at 9 am before meeting for worship. Our bread will be ready after meeting for worship. We can hold about 16 people in the Meeting kitchen. Please RSVP to the office at office@indyfriends.org. 

 

The Indy Winds Flute Choir will present their winter concert on Sunday December 9th at 3:00 at Roberts Park United Methodist Church.  There will be a combination of Christmas music and other classical music.  Carl B and Lynda S will both be performing.  Lynda will be the featured soloist in a beautiful arrangement of “O Holy Night”.  The concert will run about two hours, but if you’re worried about getting to Vespers on time, there will be an intermission around 4:00.


Vespers Annual Concert~ On Sunday, December 9th at 5:30pm we invite you to attend our annual Vespers concert. Our performers have been practicing hard for this concert, and it should be quite a delight. Following the concert there will be a complimentary light dinner, hosted by our Fellowship Committee. Plan to join us for the evening!

Children’s Pageant ~ Join us during our Meeting for Worship on Sunday, December 16 as our children depict and read the story of Jesus' birth. As well, the congregation will join in with singing hymns together. This is an annual tradition that you do not want to miss!

 

Annual Christmas Tea ~ Please join us on December 16th immediately after worship in the parlor for the annual Christmas Tea. There will be lots of cookies and punch and fellowship. If you can donate two dozen cookies, they can be dropped off 10-11am, Saturday, December 15th or the morning of Sunday, December 16th in the parlor. For more information contact the office at office@indyfriends.org. Happy holidays!

Christmas Caroling ~ Fa La La La La! Joy to the World! Deck the Halls! It's time to clear your throats and get ready to bring some Christmas cheer through singing some carols! Join us on Sunday, December 16 in the evening for some caroling. Make sure to bring the kids as we will again be heading to Steak and Shake after caroling for dinner! This should be a fun night for the entire family! Keep an eye out for more details coming soon.

 

Festival of Carols ~ The Indianapolis Symphonic Choir Presents Festival of Carols! Dan R and Bill P are both part of this group. Make 2018 the holiday season you will forever remember! With 5 performances to choose from, the Midwest’s beloved holiday tradition includes your favorite carols and Christmas music featuring the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra and musical surprises for kids from 1 to 92. Performances will be December 9 at the Warren Performing Arts Center and December 21-December 23 at the Palladium at the Center for Performing Arts. For more information or to buy tickets, visit indychoir.org!


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Friend to Friend November 14, 2018

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 Do You Know the History of First Friends’ Neighborhood? (Part 5) 

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It is amazing, how much goes on in our neighborhood that we may never know is happening. This week, the pastoral staff at First Friends met with Megan H, Abby M, and our own Kristyn G from Easterseals Crossroads of Indianapolis to get know their organization better. Who knew that just south of our Meetinghouse on Kingsway Avenue sits a five-story building with nearly a 30-year history of voluntary service to those with disabilities in our neighborhood and greater Indianapolis. Here is a brief history from their website (www.eastersealscrossroads.org):   

In 1936, Mrs. William E. Gavin heard of a club of 12 teenagers with disabilities had formed for socialization. She contacted her friend, Mrs. P. R. Mallory, and the two volunteers became engrossed in aiding the group by expanding the program to include profitable handicrafts.

In 1939, the group became formally organized under the leadership of The Indiana Society for Crippled Children and a year later became an affiliate of what is now National Easterseals and leased a building at 30th and New Jersey streets. A curative workshop was established to prepare persons with disabilities for jobs in the community.

Since then, Easterseals Crossroads has occupied buildings in various locations, but settled at 4740 Kingsway Avenue in 1990 where its main location exists today.

How exciting that for almost 30 years, Easterseals Crossroads has been making a difference in our neighborhood, and we have the opportunity to get connected! 

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First Friends’ attender Kristyn G is the Camp and Respite Service Manager at Easterseals. She shared with us ways First Friends could help volunteer for respite events and make an impact on our local community. 

Kristyn helps families of children with disabilities find needed rest and a well-deserved break with the many programs Easterseals offers which encourage respite. Some of the events they provide are parents’ nights/days out, teen programs for peer interaction, adult programs, and special themed events like dances, game nights, movie nights, and dinner parties.  

As well as Kristyn’s respite events, Abby and Megan provided a plethora of other volunteer opportunities where we are able to partner, volunteer, and connect with our community.  Here is a link to both the respite events and other volunteer opportunities for those interested in getting involved: https://goo.gl/Svz726 and https://goo.gl/eAHTgf

If you would like to volunteer with Easterseals Crossroads, please contact Abby McIntyre (Media and Volunteer Coordinator) by email amcintyre@eastersealscrossroads.org or by phone at 317.466.100 X2414 or connect with Kristyn G (Camp and Respite Service Manager) at kgreenawald@eastersealscrossroads.org or by phone at 317.466.1000 x2420.

Grace and Peace,

Bob 


Joys & Concerns

Thank you to our food pantry volunteers! They were extremely busy...about 100 families served! Our volunteers were Linda and Rik L; Kathy R; Steve R; Ray G; Beth S; Christie M; Carol and Jim D.  Thanks to all our volunteers who helped out on this very busy day at the pantry!


We are so excited to share with you our new sign! Several months ago we were approached by the city and informed that our old sign was out of compliance with city ordinances. After much deliberation on how to solve the issue it was decided the best approach was to start from scratch with a new compliant sign. After much work the sign is done! Thank you so much to Cindy Small for her work organizing and carrying out this project for our Meeting!

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Last Friday night, we hosted a wiener roast and sing-along as the temperatures plummeted to freezing. As you can see from these photos from Bill Heitman, we brought the singing in after trying to warm up outside around the fire. Gladly our “inner lights” were burning bright!

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Quaker-Affiliated Organizations

IFCL:  Looking for ways to engage and make a difference after the recent midterm elections?  Indiana Friends Committee on Legislation (IFCL) is part of a coalition working for redistricting reform in Indiana, and you can participate.  Join us for a rally organized by the Indiana Coalition for Independent Redistricting to let legislators know that 2019 is the year for redistricting reform in Indiana.  The rally will be on Tuesday, November 20 at 12:30pm on the Capitol Street side of the Statehouse.  The father of gerrymandering, Elbridge Gerry, will make a special appearance, and there'll  be a brass jazz combo, all to send an upbeat message:  Hoosiers want fair redistricting for the state legislature and congressional districts. In addition, you can sign a petition at www.allinfordemocracy.org encouraging Gov. Holcomb to put redistricting reform high on his legislative agenda next session.  If you have any questions, please contact Phil Goodchild (goodch713@aol.com; 317-790-9054).  Thanks.


Announcements, Reports & Opportunities

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Glasses found! These glasses were found in the pews after Meeting for Worship on Sunday, November 4. They have silver metal rims and squarish lenses. If they belong to you please retrieve them from the office. Thank you!


Get rid of your ugly Christmas sweaters! Shawn P’s Hamilton Southeastern school choir’s holiday performance this year includes a song about ugly Christmas sweaters and the choir is in need of donations. If you have an ugly Christmas sweater that you no longer need, please consider donating it. If you have a sweater you’d like to give, please pass them onto Shawn on Sunday morning or bring them to the meeting office. Thank you for your help!   

Food Pantry Help Needed ~ Susan M who heads up operations at the Mid North Food Pantry, is scheduled for surgery on November 9 and will be unable to perform her regular duties at the pantry for 2 weeks.  Anyone who can help out at the pantry during the weeks of November 12 and 19 would be appreciated. Besides our usual time, there are also other opportunities to help the pantry. If you’d like to help clients shop (as First Friends does on the 1st and 3rd Wednesdays), then the pantry can use help on Mondays and Fridays 10am – 2pm.  They can also use help with unpacking and stocking deliveries on Tuesdays (at about 11am) and Thursdays (at about 10am).  Also, the pantry will be open on Wednesday, November 21, (our regular day to help and the day before Thanksgiving). Thank you so much!

Threshing Together ~ If you are interested in gathering with other men who mull over current issues or topics, where all points of view are heard, no decisions are made, and all in a non-threatening atmosphere over a meal, then Threshing Together is for you! Join us for our next meeting on Thursday, November 15 at 7:00pm. See locations here: https://goo.gl/HosLVg 

 

Sing-Along with Jim! ~ Mark your calendars for Friday, November 16th for an evening of music and fun with songs ranging from Dylan to Pete Seeger, Beetles to Stephen Foster. Some are sad, pensive, inspirational, patriotic, religious. We are now enlarging the songs and printing them, placing them in folders alphabetically, thus making a less labor-intensive process for all. Rise Up Singing and Rise Again are still useful in case we have more singers than folders. Please do bring your books. We begin at 7:00, end at 8:30 or soon after. Third Friday of the month, as usual!



Join us for these Thanksgiving services! On Tuesday November 20 at 7:00pm there will be an Interfaith Thanksgiving Service at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 6050 N. Meridian Street. Members of many different faiths will gather together for this time of prayer. The Shalom Zone will also hold an Ecumenical Thanksgiving service on November 20th at 7pm at Cross and Crown Lutheran Church, 5233 E 79th St. We hope you will take the time to gather with us at either of these wonderful services.



Bake With Us! Want to slow down while learning how to make delicious, nutritious sourdough bread?! Join us Saturday, Dec 8th from 6 to 7:30 pm at the Meeting house and you'll learn how to make your very own bread! Bring a sturdy spoon for stirring, a large bowl that can hold at least 3 quarts, and a digital scale, but if you don't have some of these things you are still welcome. We'll finish the process with bread shaping and baking Sunday morning at 9 am before meeting for worship. Our bread will be ready after meeting for worship. We can hold about 16 people in the Meeting kitchen. Please RSVP to the office at office@indyfriends.org. 



Work Needed ~ Please see this message from Janice H: As Career Coach at Hawthorne Community Center, I have a client who fled Rwanda on a tourist visa with her two young children a few months ago because her husband disappeared, and people were trying to kill her entire family. She is staying at a shelter and filing for asylum through Ind. Legal Services.  She will not have a work permit for 5 months or more and has no pocket money.  In the meantime, she is willing to clean houses or do whatever as long as it is a safe situation.  She speaks and understands some English and is fluent in French and her mother tongue.  Both her children will soon be in school during the day.  She doesn't have a car, but Hawthorne has bus passes.  She has a bachelor’s degree in management and economics from her homeland. Another need she has is for a spiritual community.  If you know of any Haitian or other congregations where French is spoken, I would love to connect her with one. If you know of any work or social service assistance besides the Immigrant Welcome Center and the Exodus Refugee Center, please let the office know at office@indyfriends.org. 



College Care packages - It is time to send care packages to our college students as they prepare for their final exams at school.  We will have boxes out this Sunday for you to fill with goodies like candy, cookies, cards, and other treats. Please bring enough for all 8 of our students. Any money donated will be used to purchase additional items for the boxes. We will be mailing them November 26 so please bring everything in by Sunday, November 25. Thank you for your support!



Grief Gathering on Sunday November 25th after Meeting for Worship - Circle of Care is hosting a lunch and discussion for those who have experienced a loss of a family member or cherished friend.  This lunch and time together is a tangible way our Meeting is demonstrating our care for each other during times of sadness.  Marsha Hutchinson, Pastor of Care Ministers at St. Luke’s United Methodist Church, will facilitate our discussions that day. We invite anyone that is interested in gathering with others to share and reflect on the experience of loss. Feel free to bring any family members. Please contact the office (office@indyfriends.org) if you plan to attend. Circle of Care at is also exploring other ideas to meet the needs of our members and attenders and would like to know other ways we can support those at First Friends who are dealing with loss and grief. If you have some time, we ask that you please complete a short survey, found here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/8L273QQ. Thank you for your feedback! 



Poinsettias are available for order! You can order a red or white Poinsettia in a 6-inch pot for $8.50 each.  All orders must be submitted to the office by Monday, November 26th. Order forms are available, or you can email your order to the office and send in your check separately. If emailing your order to office@indyfriends.org, please list how many of which color you want, if it is in memory of or in honor of someone, and please put ‘Poinsettia order’ in the memo line of the check when you send it in. 



Oak Leaf: Meeting For Reading ~ Anyone interested is invited to attend the 5th Annual Potluck Lasagna Holiday Dinner at Ruth K’s house on November 27th at 6:30 pm.  We will be discussing The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood.  Bring a friend, a side dish and a book from home for our annual holiday book swap. Contact the office at office@indyfriends.org if you need directions. The next discussion will be American Fire by Monica Hesse on December 27th at 7 pm.



Royal Sensation Choir Performance in Meeting ~ On Sunday, December 2nd, we are pleased to welcome the Royal Sensation choir from Hamilton Southeastern High School. Royal Sensation is under the direction of Shawn P. Please join us in Meeting that day to hear their performance. A goodwill offering will be taken to help support their choir. 

 

Riley Children’s Hospital Fundraiser ~ A message from Heather D: I'm on a mission to save kids and I need your help. Riley Children's Hospital treats thousands of children each year, regardless of their family's ability to pay. These kids are facing scary stuff like cancer, cystic fibrosis, and injuries from accidents to name just a few. This is my third year participating in this huge worldwide celebration of the social impact of gamers of all kinds. Our team will play video games to board games and even tabletop RPG's to raise money and awareness for Riley Children's Hospital! 

Since 2008, Extra Life has raised more than $40 million to help children's hospitals provide critical treatments and healthcare services, pediatric medical equipment, research and charitable care. It's my sincere hope that you'll find it in your heart to support my efforts with a monthly pledge or one-time gift that will go directly to my hospital. Your donation is tax-deductible and ALL PROCEEDS go to help kids. I need your help to reach my goal "For The Kids".  Please make a safe, easy donation online today. You can click the following link to make a safe and easy online donation. Thank you so much for supporting my efforts! https://goo.gl/3dt8i4



Vespers Annual Concert~ On Sunday, December 9th at 5:30pm we invite you to attend our annual Vespers concert. Our performers have been practicing hard for this concert, and it should be quite a delight. Following the concert there will be a complimentary light dinner, hosted by our Fellowship Committee. Plan to join us for the evening!

 

Children’s Pageant ~ Join us during our Meeting for Worship on Sunday, December 16 as our children depict and read the story of Jesus' birth. As well, the congregation will join in with singing hymns together. This is an annual tradition that you do not want to miss! 



Annual Christmas Tea ~ Please join us on December 16th immediately after worship in the parlor for the annual Christmas Tea. There will be lots of cookies and punch and fellowship. If you can donate two dozen cookies, they can be dropped off 10-11am, Saturday, December 15th or the morning of Sunday, December 16th in the parlor. For more information contact the office at office@indyfriends.org. Happy holidays! 



Christmas Caroling ~ Fa La La La La! Joy to the World! Deck the Halls! It's time to clear your throats and get ready to bring some Christmas cheer through singing some carols! Join us on Sunday, December 16 in the evening for some caroling. Make sure to bring the kids as we will again be heading to Steak and Shake after caroling for dinner! This should be a fun night for the entire family! Keep an eye out for more details coming soon.



Festival of Carols ~ The Indianapolis Symphonic Choir Presents Festival of Carols! Dan R and Bill P are both part of this group. Make 2018 the holiday season you will forever remember! With 5 performances to choose from, the Midwest’s beloved holiday tradition includes your favorite carols and Christmas music featuring the Indianapolis Symphonic Choir, Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra and musical surprises for kids from 1 to 92. Performances will be December 9 at the Warren Performing Arts Center and December 21-December 23 at the Palladium at the Center for Performing Arts. For more information or to buy tickets, visit indychoir.org



Christmas Calendar at First Friends Meeting


Sunday, December 2nd

‘Royal Sensation Choir’ in Meeting



Sunday, December 9th

Vespers at 5:30pm

Complimentary Light Buffet following concert



Sunday, December 16th

Children’s Christmas Pageant in Meeting

Christmas Tea following Worship

Christmas Caroling



Sunday, December 23rd

Take your poinsettias home!



Monday, December 24th

Christmas Eve Service at 5:30 pm

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Friend to Friend November 7, 2018

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First Friends is a polling place for voting for precincts in Washington Township 61 and 21-13 in Marion County.  These two precincts cover Keystone to 52nd and Kessler to the railroad and Kessler to Allisonville to 56th St.  This is our neighborhood and at least our 15th year to host voters.  I came to the Meeting at 7:00 a.m. yesterday to prepare breakfast for our poll workers and it was inspiring to see that we are not a homogenous neighborhood.  Our Meeting is situated in an area with great diversity based on gender, race, and age and I observed this diversity all day.  I am so inspired to see people taking time out of their day to wait in lines (sometimes for hours) to participate in the most important democratic idea we can ever embrace.  At our precinct, every new voter is identified and a huge cheer and clapping occurs to support and appreciate this person.  I love this!  This is what we should be cheering about.

I have been thinking historically today about this idea of voting that our founding fathers knew to be the foundation of a democracy.  I have been channeling our national heroes that established our country--like Washington, Adams, Hamilton, Jefferson, Penn and so many others that were willing to give up their lives for this idea of democracy.  I always get emotional on voting day as we continue to live out their ideals of a perfect union. 

We have much work to do to realize this perfect union.  But that is our daily challenge - what am I doing to help realize this beautiful idea of democracy, equality, opportunity, and justice?  Every voting day the people that show up are a peg in realizing this perfect union. The last time that we had at least 50% voting in a midterm election was 1914.  Rick Small shared this information with me yesterday and I am distraught to hear this as the vote was essential to many people dying for this republic. I hope we had a plus 50% turnout yesterday. 

I so appreciated Bob’s message last Sunday that talked about how we communicate with each other.  We need to embrace everyone that we might disagree with and appreciate their holiness, spirit and their interest in making America the best it can be in terms of our founding fathers.   We need to listen to each other. This is a spiritual matter to me.  Our democracy is dependent on compromising with each other and seeing that of God in each other.

Beth


Joys & Concerns


On Wednesday October 24 Seasoned Friends had a great time visiting the historic Beem House! We also made an unplanned stop at Brett’s farm. We had lots of fun!

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Our youth group traveled to Cincinnati on Saturday October 27 to visit the Underground Railroad Freedom Center. We learned so much about African American history, the history of our country, and the treacherous journey of slaves seeking freedom. We also learned a bit about the role some Quakers played in that history!

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There is just something transcendent about entering our Quaker Meetinghouse in the mornings during the season of fall. Our natural “stained glass” windows speak of the glory of God in their radiant color and leave you in silent awe. (Left)

We will hold a memorial service for Marilyn O here at First Friends Meeting on Saturday, November 10th. Visitation will be held at 10am and the service will begin at 11am. After the service there will be a light luncheon in Fellowship Hall. We are looking for volunteers to bring desserts for the luncheon. If you’re able to help, please let the office know if you can bring something. Please hold the O family in your prayers as we celebrate Marilyn’s life.


Our friend Daud A sent his love and said how much he misses First Friends.  Daud and Lillian moved to Alabama 18 months ago, but he stops in to see us when he is in town.  We miss them!


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities


Please Join us for this month’s Eco Film! This time the Shalom Zone will present Cheshire, Ohio, An American coal story in 3 acts which will be shown this Friday, November 9 at 7:00 pm at Cross and Crown Lutheran Church, 5233 E. 79th Street. This film follows a community devastated by coal, starting with the American Electric Power's buyout and bulldozing of this Ohio River town after exposing them to years of harmful emissions. This 75-minute film, which has won numerous awards, is a story about the increasingly difficult choices we face surrounding coal and the environment. You can watch a trailer for the film at www.cheshireohio.com. There is no admission charge, and there will be free refreshments. We hope to see you there!

 

Affirmation this Sunday! As a reminder, the youth will meet for Affirmation this Sunday! We hope to see all our youth there!

 

Get rid of your ugly Christmas sweaters! Shawn P’s Hamilton Southeastern school choir’s holiday performance this year includes a song about ugly Christmas sweaters and the choir is in need of donations. If you have an ugly Christmas sweater that you no longer need, please consider donating it. If you have a sweater you’d like to give, please pass them onto Shawn on Sunday morning or bring them to the meeting office. Thank you for your help!  

 

Food Pantry Help Needed ~ Susan M, who heads up operations at the Mid North Food Pantry, is scheduled for surgery on November 9 and will be unable to perform her regular duties at the pantry for 2 weeks.  Anyone who can help out at the pantry during the weeks of November 12 and Nov-19 would be appreciated.  Thanks.

 

Coburn Place Open House ~ Coburn Place is hosting their annual open house on Thursday, November 8th from 8am to 8pm. This is a great opportunity to learn about Coburn Place, see some of their fantastic apartments first hand, and find out more about how they’re growing and expanding services. RSVP at http://coburnplace.org/pt-event/open-house-2018/. The address is 604 E. 38th St, Indianapolis.

A Sing-Along around the campfire will take place on Friday, November 9 from 6 to 8:30 p.m.  Connections is planning this weenie and marshmallow roast.  Jim K will provide music and Leslie K will assist as anyone who wants, chimes in.  The event will take place in the Meetinghouse courtyard and Fellowship Hall.  Bring your voice, an instrument if you can play, and wear warm clothes.  Please RSVP with the office if possible, but everyone is welcome to come. We would appreciate anyone who brings some food to share.  Do not stay away because you aren’t bringing any food.  See you then!

 

College Care packages - It is time to send care packages to our college students as they prepare for their final exams at school.  We will have boxes out this Sunday for you to fill with goodies like candy, cookies, cards, and other treats. Please bring enough for all 8 of our students. Any money donated will be used to purchase additional items for the boxes. We will be mailing them November 26 so please bring everything in by Sunday, November 25. Thank you for your support!

 

Riley Children’s Hospital Fundraiser ~ A message from Heather D: I'm on a mission to save kids and I need your help. Riley Children's Hospital treats thousands of children each year, regardless of their family's ability to pay. These kids are facing scary stuff like cancer, cystic fibrosis, and injuries from accidents to name just a few. This is my third year participating in this huge worldwide celebration of the social impact of gamers of all kinds. Our team will play video games to board games and even tabletop RPG's to raise money and awareness for Riley Children's Hospital! 

Since 2008, Extra Life has raised more than $40 million to help children's hospitals provide critical treatments and healthcare services, pediatric medical equipment, research and charitable care. It's my sincere hope that you'll find it in your heart to support my efforts with a monthly pledge or one-time gift that will go directly to my hospital. Your donation is tax-deductible and ALL PROCEEDS go to help kids. I need your help to reach my goal "For The Kids".  Please make a safe, easy donation online today. You can click the following link to make a safe and easy online donation. Thank you so much for supporting my efforts! https://goo.gl/3dt8i4

 

Threshing Together ~ If you are interested in gathering with other men who mull over current issues or topics, where all points of view are heard, no decisions are made, and all in a non-threatening atmosphere over a meal, then Threshing Together is for you! Join us for our next meeting on Thursday, November 15 at 7:00pm. See locations here: https://goo.gl/HosLVg

 

Sing-Along with Jim! ~ Mark your calendars for Friday, November 16th for an evening of music and fun with songs ranging from Dylan to Pete Seeger, Beetles to Stephen Foster. Some are sad, pensive, inspirational, patriotic, religious. We are now enlarging the songs and printing them, placing them in folders alphabetically, thus making a less labor-intensive process for all. Rise Up Singing and Rise Again are still useful in case we have more singers than folders. Please do bring your books. We begin at 7:00, end at 8:30 or soon after. Third Friday of the month, as usual!

 

Join us for these Thanksgiving services! Please mark your calendars now for these thanksgiving services! On Tuesday November 20 at 7:00pm there will be an Interfaith Thanksgiving Service at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 6050 N. Meridian Street. Members of many different faiths will gather together for this time of prayer. The Shalom Zone will also hold an Ecumenical Thanksgiving service on November 20th at 7pm at Cross and Crown Lutheran Church, 5233 E 79th St. We hope you will take the time to gather with us at either of these wonderful services.

 

Grief Gathering on Sunday November 25th after Meeting for Worship - Circle of Care is hosting a lunch and discussion for those who have experienced a loss of a family member or cherished friend.  This lunch and time together is a tangible way our Meeting is demonstrating our care for each other during times of sadness.  Marsha Hutchinson, Pastor of Care Ministers at St. Luke’s United Methodist Church, will facilitate our discussions that day. We invite anyone that is interested in gathering with others to share and reflect on the experience of loss. Feel free to bring any family members. Please contact the office (office@indyfriends.org) if you plan to attend.

Royal Sensation Choir Performance in Meeting ~ On Sunday, December 2nd, we are pleased to welcome the Royal Sensation choir from Hamilton Southeastern High School. Royal Sensation is under the direction of Shawn P. Please join us in Meeting that day to hear their performance. A goodwill offering will be taken to help support their choir.

 

Vespers Annual Concert~ On Sunday, December 9th at 5:30pm we invite you to attend our annual Vespers concert. Our performers have been practicing hard for this concert, and it should be quite a delight. Following the concert there will be a complimentary light dinner, hosted by our Fellowship Committee. Plan to join us for the evening!

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Friend to Friend October 31, 2018

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Do you Know the History of First Friends’ Neighborhood? (Part 4)

 

Our Glendale Neighborhood has been a draw to young families for many years. Even before Glendale Mall made its entrance to our neighborhood in 1958, across the street on the corner of 62nd and Keystone was an 18-acre wonderland for children and families known as Little America.

 

Harley H. Hornbeck opened Little America Amusement Park in 1930 as a “Tom Thumb” or what today we would call a miniature golf course.  In the beginning they offered golf, bowling, shuffleboard, badminton, ping-pong, horseshoes, archery, and tennis. In a time, when people were becoming aware of the need for healthy recreation, the park marketed itself as “Healthful Recreation for All of the Family.”  In 1941 the park had become so popular that Life Magazine selected it for a photo essay. 

 

In the early 50’s changes began to take place at Little America. It had to evolve to meet the demand of the many families beginning to move into the newly developed suburban area.  Little America changed owners several times during this time, while adding pony rides, a kiddie playground, a renovated restaurant, and the biggest draw a double header locomotive. Little America had become a family destination in Indianapolis. To continue to draw families, it was renamed “Kiddie Land Wonderland” and then later became known simply as “Kiddyland.”  The draw continued, and the amusement opportunities grew.  A merry-go-round, boat rides, sky fighter, auto ride, and the Little Dipper roller-coaster was added making this into family amusement park. 

 

Not everyone was happy about the growth of the amusement park.  Homeowners in the Glendale Neighborhood sued the owners of Little America and had been against another amusement part ever since White City Amusement Park in Broad Ripple had burned to the ground in 1908. This would all change when Frank Thomas would turn Little America into a nationwide success in 1957. Thomas opened the first Burger Chef restaurant within the park. Our own Dan Mitchell recalls Burger Chef’s .15 cent burgers and the .45 cent burger, fries, and delicious milk shake deal. Burger Chef went on to be sold to the Hardee’s/Carl’s Jr. restaurant chains becoming a national success…and to think it all began in our neighborhood. 

 

Sadly, in the mid 1960’s, Little America and Kiddy Land began having several difficulties. Various causes were behind its demise and closing. So many good memories were made at Little America and Kiddy Land over the years and the nostalgia is not lost. 

 

To think that as the first Burger Chef and the first shopping mall in Indianapolis were about to open just a stone’s throw from our newly built meetinghouse, minister Errol Elliott was returning for a second time (1936-42 and 1957-1965) to serve First Friends in our newly developed and growing Glendale Neighborhood. What an exciting time it must have been.

 

Information from: Little America Amusement Park in Indianapolis by Julie G. Dojahn

http://www.arizonaandpacificrr.com/littleamerica/littleamerica.html

Grace and peace,

Bob


Joys & Concerns


We will hold a memorial service for Marilyn Overman here at First Friends Meeting on Saturday, November 10th. Visitation will be held at 10am and the service will begin at 11am. After the service there will be a light luncheon in Fellowship Hall. Please hold the Overman family in your prayers as we celebrate Marilyn’s life.


Announcements, Reports, & Opportunities


Community Soup ~ Witness & Service will host the next Community Soup this Friday, November 2, from 5:30 pm – 7 pm.  Everyone is invited to this very informal dinner. As the weather is cooling down we will be serving soup. If you’d like you’re welcome to bring a soup but not necessary.  Our motto is: No cooking, no cleanup, no cost! We will also be hearing from Norma W who will be speaking about her FUM sponsored “Living Letters” trip to Israel and Palestine.  Holy Land sites will be included as well as impressions of life under military occupation. Hope to see you there.

 

Daylight Savings Time ends at 2am this Sunday, so don’t forget to set your clocks back an hour before you go to bed, or you may show up to church an hour early on Sunday!

Also this Sunday, Beth will be selling coffee, chocolate and olive oil to help raise money for youth Affirmation, currently under way!

College Care packages - It is time to send care packages to our college students as they prepare for their final exams at school.  We will have boxes out this Sunday for you to fill with goodies like candy, cookies, cards, and other treats. Please bring enough for all 8 of our students. Any money donated will be used to purchase additional items for the boxes. We will be mailing them November 26 so please bring everything in by Sunday, November 25. Thank you for your support!

Riley Children’s Hospital Fundraiser ~ A message from Heather D: I'm on a mission to save kids and I need your help. Riley Children's Hospital treats thousands of children each year, regardless of their family's ability to pay. These kids are facing scary stuff like cancer, cystic fibrosis, and injuries from accidents to name just a few. This is my third year participating in this huge worldwide celebration of the social impact of gamers of all kinds. Our team will play video games to board games and even tabletop RPG's to raise money and awareness for Riley Children's Hospital! 

Since 2008, Extra Life has raised more than $40 million to help children's hospitals provide critical treatments and healthcare services, pediatric medical equipment, research and charitable care. It's my sincere hope that you'll find it in your heart to support my efforts with a monthly pledge or one-time gift that will go directly to my hospital. Your donation is tax-deductible and ALL PROCEEDS go to help kids. I need your help to reach my goal "For The Kids".  Please make a safe, easy donation online today. You can click the following link to make a safe and easy online donation. Thank you so much for supporting my efforts! https://goo.gl/3dt8i4


Coburn Place Open House ~ Coburn Place is hosting their annual open house on Thursday, November 8th from 8am to 8pm. This is a great opportunity to learn about Coburn Place, see some of their fantastic apartments first hand, and find out more about how we're growing and expanding services. RSVP at http://coburnplace.org/pt-event/open-house-2018/. The address is 604 E. 38th St, Indianapolis. If you have any questions you can contact Sam Ryan at sam@coburnplace.org.

 

A Sing-Along around the campfire will take place on Friday, November 9 from 6 to 8:30 p.m.  Connections is planning this weenie and marshmallow roast.  Jim K will provide music and Leslie K will assist as anyone who wants, chimes in.  The event will take place in the Meetinghouse courtyard and Fellowship Hall.  Bring your voice, an instrument if you can play, and wear warm clothes.  If you would like to come, please RSVP with the office at office@indyfriends.org or 317-255-2485 by Wednesday, November 7.  Please say then what food you will supply if you plan to contribute some.  Do not stay away because you aren’t bringing any food.  See you then!


Community Garden: A Year in Review ~ Thank you to our community gardeners, supporters and those who have inspired us, including those not pictured. See you in the springtime!

~Nancy

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming
gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
-Marcel Proust

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Meditational Woods October Bird of the Month

Merlin – It was Magic

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Last week I was prepared to draw the bird I had selected weeks ago for October, and, yes, the story was mostly complete in my head. However, I stopped mid-week to check on something with the stamp project, and decided to take a listen in the woods, just to find out what was around. As I was leaving the woods, I happened to glance down the power lines to the north, and saw a bird sitting motionless on one of the wires about halfway to the garage. It had not been there when I had arrived several minutes earlier. At first I could not judge its size; if it was small, it could be a bluebird. If it was large, it was likely to be an American Kestrel, a member of the falcon family. I decided to check it out. The day was overcast, and bird’s colors and patterns were difficult to discern against the white sky. Quickly I saw it was too large to be a bluebird, and it had a hawk-like bill. So it was a Kestrel, a species I have seen before on the property, especially around the power lines and towers. But wait!! Where was the strong double-lined facial pattern of a kestrel? Not on this bird!! Where was the kestrel’s reddish brown back and tail? Also not here. Oh my!! This was no kestrel. This was the much rarer Merlin, a falcon with an all-dark bluish-gray back, black blotches on the sides of the belly, a subtle cheek mark, and a bluish-gray tail with dark bands. This was by far the rarest bird I have seen here on the First Friends property.

In fact, in my 45 years of birding, I have never seen a Merlin well-enough on my own to identify it…until now. When people have shown them to me, they are usually far off in flight or seen in poor weather. This one, in the middle of migration, allowed me to approach it, pass it, and even get a look from behind. When I walked down the sidewalk back to the woods, I turned to give the bird one more look, but the Merlin was gone, just as it had appeared…like magic.

~Brad J

 

Threshing Together ~ If you are interested in gathering with other men who mull over current issues or topics, where all points of view are heard, no decisions are made, and all in a non-threatening atmosphere over a meal, then Threshing Together is for you! Join us for our next meeting on Thursday, November 15 at 7:00pm. See locations here: https://goo.gl/HosLVg

 

Sing-Along with Jim! ~ Mark your calendars for Friday, November 16 for an evening of music and fun. We will have copies of the songs but please do bring your books if you have them. We begin at 7:00, end at 8:30 or soon after. Third Friday of the month, as usual!

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